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i want to know if im a slut
ok, im 14 years old. i have been sexually active with three guys. ive had sex with one 2 times an almost had sex with the third guy hours after i met him. the second guy ive done almost everything with except sex. ive known the guy i had sex with for 3 an a half years, the second guy 2 years an the third guy a couple months now but only hours before the incident. there was supposed to be a fourth guy tonight but i was to confused. did i mention all these guys are my older brothers best friends? the oldest is about 17 an the youngest guy was 15 turning 16. does this mean im a slut? even if i havent had SEX with them all, only one?
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Ohkaii Then,,
To Be Honest Iif ii heard thatt id say youh were a slut =(
But yuh just need to calm down,,because your stiill young and you dont want to get a reputation(N)
However if you have sex with the 3rd boy its upp to you but you need to make sure what you're doing is safe..
An youh shouldnt really be with boys that age anyway,,
take care
xx
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honestly,
that is kinda slutty.
but you have to be able to determine if your a slut
if you don't wanna be, you don't have to be.
you can change if you want to.
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but yeah.
tone it down.
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To be honest, that is slutty. Tone it down and you won't have problems with your reputation.
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Remember, only you can determine the person you are. If you consider yourself something, then that's what you thing. However, it won't stop the people around you from having opinions, as well. To some, this may come off as more.. 'wonton' behavior.
While you may not have had sex with all of them, you have still engaged in sexual activity. Today's generation moves much more quickly than older generations, so I guess I'd understand that you are doing things at this age. There's a ton of sexual pressure, you just need to know when to give in and when to pass something up.
Make sure you understand that sex and the things you are doing are supposed to be shared with people you really care about. You may not regret anything now, but it may not seem as special when you're older. While you'll be experienced, there's nothing new to look forward to, or come of age for or anything. Don't make yourself grow up too quickly..
So, you may not necessairly be a slut. That's just a name to put people down, really, just make sure that the behavior you engage in reflects who you are, and is something that you wouldn't be ashamed of.
XOXO
KAT.
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First off I would like to say I will not judge you in any way, and I applaud you for being concerned for yourself.
Now lets get to it. Having sex is a divine right given to two people in a matrimonial bond...at least that is what our parents, teachers, and religious leaders are telling us. Today, kids are becoming sexually active earlier than previous times. For one, teenagers are developing a desire for sexual relations earlier, which is caused by a gland in your brain. Thats right, your drive for sex is controled by a chemical in your brain, which today's generation is developing earlier and earlier. Yet, most people do not get married until their later 20's and early 30's. Thats nearly TEN years that you have a drive to have sex but are told you have to refrain. Thats a long time. So biologically speaking, its extremely easy to give in.
But is must say, don't take your sexuality lightly. Being sexually active is a MAJOR responsibility. It is your job to take care of your body and do what is best to enable you to attain success. Having sex at an early age can have extremely detrimental effects on your life in the long run. Being a high school mother I'm sure is not a part of your plan. And contracting and STD will be all a guy needs to know before he kicks you to the curb. Not to mention the emotional stress that can come from having sex. Some guys think a girl who isn't a virgin is "dirty" and isn't "pure" in their eyes, which means they may not want to be with you. Think long and hard about whether this is the path you want to lead yourself down on. Imagine yourself ten years down the road abstaining from having sex, then compare it to how your life would be if you continued. Choosing to abstain will tell a guy that he deserves your respect, and if he cannot appreciate that, he doesn't deserve you anyways. No one wants to be someone else's leftovers. Protect yourself, and demand respect. Every young woman deserves that much.
However, the fact that you're asking others if you are a slut means that you are uncertain about it yourself. If you question yourself, I think you've already answered your own question.
No one has the right to judge you or tell you who you are. Only you can define yourself. If others tell you that you are a slut, that doesn't mean you are. However, if you think that you're a slut, you have just definted yourself.
Most importantly, you should never have to justify yourself. Be confident, be strong, and dont let others push you around and tell you who you are. Dont let others tell you who YOU are, you tell THEM!
Good luck! and I hope everything works out for the best! :]
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I wouldn't go as far as saying your a slut, but you are doing things that are really inappropriate for you age and that can cause some major reprocussions in the future. Back away from sex and focus on school and hanging out with your girl friends. You have your entire life to be having sex, don't ruin your teen years worrying about that now.
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Personally i think you are wayy to young to be even having sex, let alone having sex with one guy and doing everything else with 2-3 other guys. You are not a slut, per say, but you are acting kind of slutty. So i think you are turning into a slut, so you should stop fooling around with all these guys, choose one, and take it SLOW
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