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there's a guy i like. we dated in 8th grade and we were each others first real relationship. Ever since then i've had feelings for him (11th grade now, i know, pathetic) we've talked on the phone every couple of weeks since then. He's had girlfriends and i've had boyfriends. The thing is, now that we are both single i really would like to pursue a relationship with him seeing as he's the person i care most about. However, he doesn't think having a girlfriend at this age is even worth it since he's been dumped everytime he's gone out with someone. (but he's a REALLY good boyfriend) I want him to consider going back out with me and i asked him out in 9th grade again & he said no. I asked him why and he said he doesnt think going out with someone who broke up with you is right because they just hurt you before..and he's pretty set on those two theories. I really really have feelings for him and we're supposed to talk more about this next weekend when i call him. I really want to tell him how i feel but everytime i try I cant explain how i feel... its like the words just WONT come out. So, any ideas on how i can make myself say the words? AND, any advice on how i can convince him that his thoeries aren't the best in this situation?
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hey don't sweat it.. since he's afraid of a girlfriend go on "friend dates" once he sees that you're not going to ditch him ease him into those dating talks again =)
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well, he kind of has a point. you broke up with him, correct??
for what reason, i dont know. but im sure it was a good reason. you may THINK you love him, but if you cant say it, its probably not the kind of "love" you wish it was, or think it is.
just try to convince him that you've changed! and tell him you care about him A LOT, (which it seems you do..) you dont have to say the words "i love you" because thats too easy. but it also will mean a lot to a person when you say "i really care about you. a lot. i have for a while...and i just wanna give it another shot" just ask him to consider it for a few days and then he'll give you his answer.
hes been hurt, and its not that easy to mend a broken heart, but you can try your best.
i hope it works out for you. and i wish you both luck. take care! :)
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Don't, just be friends, being there is most of the battle. Someday he'll be ready again and you'll be there.
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