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Best Friend or Big Bitch?
okay so ive been thinking that maybe my "best friend" isnt really such a good one
it was hard enough when i didnt really have any reason to not like her(but i did always get really angry an jealous cause every guy we were ever hanging out with that ide show intrest in she would flirt with like no other and end up hooking up with them)
but now im seeing a new but really not new two-faced side of her
it was always there and i just didnt see it
so she lies to me about everything then gets offended that i dont "trust" her even though i have reason too
we both did e but then quit and she lies about it and i eventually find out shes doing it again
she lies about really pretty much everything i just wanted to use an example
she lies and lies till she is caught then she makes up some lame excuse and lies some more
then she cheated on her boyfriend and lost her virginty to a guy she knew for 1 day(btw shes 13)
and told him about it then he freaked out and she told him he was being over dramatic
even though that wasnt to me i realized how fucked up it was
then she gave me her drink(and she was sober) and i was way drunk and got really sick and started vomiting and almost choked on it and had a bunch of people i didnt even know help me and she didnt
then they called to have me picked up and she knew and didnt come with me even though she was supposed to and we came to the party together and these we my friends as it was
soo now i dont know what to do cause she just seems like a worst and worst person by the day never the less a best friend
it really hard to just leave her especially with how messed up she is
i wanna help her but i dont know what to do cause she is just too big of a lier..
pleasee help!
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alright, i know how you feel. these kinds of friends (ones that are chronological liars) are really hard to deal with. you obviously know she's a horrible friend and a bad person too, and a liar, because anyone who didn't realize that would be completely stupid. so here's what you do : talk to her about everything you feel and give her ONE CHANCE to change and say you will help her. just tell her how you feel about everything, about her lieing non stop, even if she denies it the time (she probably will because she will be embarassed) she will think about it in her head and know that what your saying is the truth. also tell her about how she is a horrible friend leaving you at a party and stuff and about the guy situation.this girl seems really pathetic and obviously has very low self-esteem that's why she degrades herself (having sex with a guy she just met)and lies to try to seem better. her main problem is hating herself so she does other things to try to cover it up and make herself seem better/cooler. if she isn't stubborn you can help her change. just tell her everything you feel and the way seh acts and then tell her that you will help her through it and help her change as much as you can . if she doesn't listen to you and gets mad, you definitely need to leave her. all she does is add stress to your life. i know it feels good to have a best friend, but once you start becoming closer with other better people and have another best friend you will realize how friendship is NOT supposed to be like that and you will be like omg what the hell was i thinking trying to deal with that. try to find people that seem trustworthy and act like good friends to you and don't lie, no matter who they are even if they aren't the coolest person or wahtever and start talking to them and hanging out with them. you will become closer and have a lot of new, better people to hang out with. maybe you can even have a new best friend soon and you will realize what a real best friend is supposed to be like. oh and also i forgot when you have the talk with her tell her you will help her with the guy situtation(like you will help her not be a slut and tell her how you feel about her cheating on her boyfriend) . when you have the talk with her MAKE SURE it's face to face and NO ONE else is there. not having it face to face and having other people there will make it impossible and she will be way less likely to open up to you and admit that she lies.
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Friends tell the truth and they help eachother in any way they can. I would tell her about all of her lies and actions. If I were you I wouldn't put up with it either. I would give her a chance only if she changed.
~Loverocks~
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