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What can I do to help him?
I'm going to tell you a bit about the guy first.
He's a goth, not because he listens to death metal and so on, he's always been like that, he's not a poser. Naturally he wears eyeliner and so on. He's a weird kid too. He dropped out of school (long story) and now he's at home with his dad. His dad doesn't give a shit so the guy (Andy) does what ever the fuck he wants. He isn't home schooled, but he's studying how to pierce and also studies languages.
Three months ago he was at a concert, and he got incredibly drunk and started a fight with a random guy. The guy got his friends on Andy and he got the living shit kicked out of him.
Three days later Andy went to the doctor and he was told that he's lost vision in his left eye for ever.
He was very fucked off at that and now whenever I see him he wears a contact lens (You know how Marilyn Manson wears a white one, well Andy wears a red one) and then he wears black and red eyeliner on that eye.
He won't talk about it at the moment, but I know he's destroyed on the inside because it'll be hard for him to carry on his piercing career with one eye.
How can I help him? What could I do to make him feel better, or talk to me about it?
Oh, for your information. I'm 15/f he's 16 and I've known him for 6 years. I go to his house almost every day. We even dated at one point. The only problem is that when before we used to watch movies or just talk at his house, now he invites me in, brings a 8 pack of beer and when I leave like three hours later a bit tipsy, he's drunk out of his mind and saying stuff like ''I don't wanna fucking live this half life. What the fuck is the point!?''
I love him so much (not really romantically, but I just love him) and I hate seeing him like this.
PS. He's never been depressed in his life before. He's always happy,funny and positive.
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Okay, firstly lay of the swearing. Here, we don't like to see swearing in ANY of our columns or answers. I know that you're angry and that's the only way to express it but just go easy on it.
Secondly, be there for him. He's going through a tough period in his life where everything could change. I get the feeling that his ear pericing dreams are over because when you loose one eye, then you loose the 3-D vision thing and coordination is very difficult so that's one thing he needs to learn. I don't mean to be harsh but I'm being realistic here, people won't want somebody to perice their ear if they've only got half-vision just incase something goes wrong. Let him know that he can talk to you anytime that he wants and that you're there for him.
He needs support going through this and if his dad isn't there for that support, then it's going to have to be you because you're the next person who cares about him.
I hope this helped,
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