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should i tell him i like him???
ok so theres this guy ive liked for a while and we’re friends and in the beginning of the school year i noticed that he liked me and i knew he did. now this is the time that all the guys ask the girls to the prom. i really want him to ask me but one of my friends might like him but we aren’t close enough friends that we would tell each other our secrets. so the thing is my friend and the guy i like are pretty close friends like today we were watching a movie in class and they sat next to each other and were talking about how they are getting married in las vegas and it was practically a joke but she also told every one how she wants this other guy to ask her to the prom. so the point is that i want to im the guy i like and tell him i like him but how and idk ow he feels about me like if he likeme anymore and if he likes my friend.
ok my friend just broke up with her boyfriend like 2 weeks ago and they were going out for a year so i think she should give other people a chace sorta bc my longest realashonship was 2 months so i dont know what to do. should i ask the guy out? how should i ask him? ive never done this before so i dont know what will happen. i don’t wanna ruin our friendship bc it will be acward if he says no. also the class after when the two of them were together talking about there “marriage” he sits next to me in that class and we talked a few times and i caught him taking a few glances at me for about like 5 seconds in the corner of my eye so im kinda confused about who he likes. thx in advance :)
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you could try asking one of his friends to find out if he likes you or ask one of your friends to ask him who he likes to be subtle about it.. otherwise its just prom and its a new era so girls should be totally comfortable asking a guy to prom, its lnot like it use to be when a guy was suppose to ask a girl.. and if he says no then just brush it over and don't act to disappointed because thats when friendships gets ruined because guys usually distance them selfs from girls that are upset with them so if he says no just go with it and laugh it off.
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This sounds like my highschool life all over again, lol.
The easiest thing to do would be to ask him to prom yourself. This will accomplish a few things...
1. You do not need to tell him how madly in love with him you are just to ask him to prom. That takes that pressure off. Just say "Hey, I was hoping maybe you would be free to go to prom with me?" If he says no, just say "thats fine. I didn't realize you had a date. So does she have a dress picked out yet?" or some lame thing like that. If he says yes... you have an entire prom evening to spend with him talking, getting to know each other better, dancing, laughing, and just having fun at a dance with all your friends wearing fancy clothes you will never again wear. It could be great!
2. I think teens rush too much into telling someone how much they like someone else when what they really could just do is hang out more often and get to know each other. I think teens have so many "break ups" because they start "going out" with the guy in their math class who they ONLY KNOW from math class and after a month or two of going out, you realize you have nothing in common except for Mr. Jones' third period algebra.
3. You have a much better chance at getting him "away" from this other girl if you jump at the chance to ask him rather than wait for him to ask you HOPING he asks you over her, etc. I asked a guy out when I first started college. Twice. He said no both times LOL. I survived and realized it wasn't that difficult, even dealing with the "no". He was nice about it and that was that. But if I hadn't, I may never have known what could have been. Turned out his goal in life was to die when he was 60 climbing a mountain in Tibet. See what I mean? All we had in common was our college class together!
You are only in high school once (usually anyway). Just be brave. Ask him. There will more than likely be other men in your life besides him anyway so if he says no, just dust yourself off and move on. Then be excited and proud of yourself that you were brave enough to do that!
Good luck. I hope it all works out for you and you have a fantastic prom.
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start a convosation with the guy it going to to be hard to garentee prom with him if he has been talking to this gurl for some time. he might not ask her out but he might go with her as friends. im trying not to be a downer on your prom parade with this guy but its kinda hard to distract a guy from a different girl if they have been talking to each other for a while, sorry sweetheart. okay try to start a convosation with this prom guy and talk to him like if he was a good friend, act friendly and innocent with him if you constantly tak to this guy wiht out bugging him and you distract him away from him and that other girl then you can have a chance but it will take a bit of time. like two weeks or maybe a little less but i dont know when your prom is but if its close he and you havent made an impression on him then he can take the other girl to prom.
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The best thing to do in this situation in my opinion is to talk to this boy. Start a friendly conversation it does not have to be about anykind of relationship, just get a conversation going. This way you are comfortable talking to him, once you are comfortable going up to him and talking to him, then slowly drop in the information about your feelings. Make sure that you tell him you don't want things to be weird between you two if he does not feel the same way. You have to remember that guys are shy as well when it comes to asking a girl out. Every one is afraid of rejection so don't think that you are the only one that is having this problem so are the guys and maybe he wants to ask you to the prom but he is afraid of the same thing you are. Keep that in mind, that sometimes you have to be the strong one and ask the guy out because they are just as scared as us girls.
I hope that everything works out. I also hope that you do tell him how you feel because I did not tell the boy I liked him in a similar situation and now he is going out with my friend who again is not a close friend. and it sucks big time, but luckily I got a second chance with a different guy. SO tell him how you feel because the odds are that he likes you back and is just to afraid of asking you and getting rejected. Good luck!!
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