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part 2 to do i leave him alone????
Ok so the situation about Bob has completly changed. Jill found out everything after he went back to her. It had been about two weeks && I couldn't stop thinking about him so I sent him a text message. Well here we are today like a week later && we are talking again. He swears he thought about me while we weren't together && wanted to talk to me but was scared I was mad at him. He swears he will never hurt me this && that ... he has already stayed with me 2 nights at my apartment && I want him to move in && he has said something about it but I dont want to rush things && him jump into one relationship when he really isn't finish with the other. I am really starting to have really STRONG feelings for him && might could be possible that I am pregnant (not sure but it could be possible) I just dont know what to do ... do I leave him alone or follow my heart && possibly have it crumbled into a million pieces if he decides to go back to her?
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He's not just 'not finished' his current relationship. He is still married. With children involved.
When there are children involved, your heart really doesn't matter, thiers do.
That is why he has to make a healthy, clean break from his wife before you should get involved. Because only if he is responsible and emotional clear in his decisions can he support and love kids.
Fooling around with you or worse, moving in with you before he has explained things and dealt with the problems on the home front will hurt those kids more deeply then anything you might be feeling.
Send him packing. Tell him to call you when he's been a responsible adult and parent. Anything else is not only selfish, it's cruel and destructive. He has a bigger responsibilties then to his own little desires. He has kids.
In this way, you protect your own heart, and the even more percious hearts of those children. If he still wants you after he has made a clean seperation from his wife, then you slowly see where things might go. NOT BEFORE.
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i dunno part one to this...but you need to take it slow. wait a few weeks. and if things stay the same, then maybe he can move in with you. you said you think you're pregnant. is it his? if so, he will probably need to move in anyways. if he leaves you for that, he was never worth it.
i hope everything works out, and if there's anything i missed, please fill me in. if you have any questions, im here.
take care :)
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