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best friend's boyfriend is using her...I think
Ok, So this is kindof confusing. First off, My best friend in the worl is...well she's not as "attractive" as most people. I know that sounds mean, but I have to say it. Anyways, my best friend finally got herself a boyfriend about a month ago and she was soooo happy. He was a grade older then us and really hot. I was extremely happy for her. Anyway, this guy "John" [her bf then] has a best friend named "brad". Well, my best friend broke up with "john" about 3 weeks ago. I knew Brad because we all just sortof hangout after school. Alex, my best friend, tells me see suspects brad likes me. So I'm like "ok, but what if he likes you, and that's why he still hangs out with us?" and she still thought he likked me, and I sorta did too. Then, Brad asked her out. Now, I'm not jealous, I already have a boyfriend, but I think he's just using her to make me jealous. When they started going out, brad came up to me and was like "So I'm going out with alex". Also, he keeps acting like flirty around me, and then be flirty with her at the same time. And today he walked me home. What's going on? I really don't want her to get hurt and I have no feelings for this guy at all but she's like in love with him. How can I tell if he likes her? Thanks!
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try to catch him talking with some one else about that and show her proof
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It sounds like Brad may be a big flirt which could end up hurting you best friend in the end. However, you do not necessarily want to be the "cause" of this hurt; if Brad actually does like you and your best friend finds out. The blame could likely end up on you.
I think the best thing to do is avoid Brad at all costs. If he wants to walk you home, say no thank you. If you must be around him, be sure your boyfriend or Alex is with you when you are together. Have as little to do with him as possible therefore reducing your chances of being the "cause" of their possible future break up. If he is as flirty as it seems, the chances of Alex and Brad remaining together for a long time is slim as Brad may not have the personality to stay with one girl for a very long time.
You did not mention your age, which is essentially irrelevent except... If you feel comfortable with an alternative, I could suggest if Brad starts to get flirty with you, just be honest. Say "I am not really comfortable with you talking to me like that". This would be extremely difficult in your early, or even late teens. I assure you as an adult you would have NO problems being quite blunt with this guy. As you might be uncomfortable with this, it may be easier for you just to avoid him as I mentioned before.
Just try to stay out of the way and in the likely event that Alex and Brad break up, you can be the true best friend that Alex needs to talk or the shoulder to cry on and you don't have to worry about being caught up in the middle. The other thing to worry about is some possible backlash on your side; Brad could end up somehow causing issues between you and your boyfriend! Best to keep a distance.
Best of luck.
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