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my bf and i broke up-he was kinda mean about it and really hurt me but then i was ok. (this all happened yesterday) and later i was talking and laughing with this other guy that i dont think my ex bf knew i know. and i was laughing and having fun with my friends. my ex bf said he still wanted to be friends and everything but yesterday at youth group it was awkard cause we had broken up that morning. i think i might have hurt him by already having fun with a new guy and stuff and i feel a little bad but i just needed someone to talk and he asked me to talk to him and i wanted my ex bf to know he wasnt my life and i can talk to other guys and i can get over him. i didnt want him to think i was gonna just be sad and depressed because im am sad but im not going to show him that and everything. i have done enough of that and stuff. i want to talk to him but i have to wait until he contacts me and idk if hes going to do that!!! i am not making the first move cause hes the one who was saying we couldnt get back together and stuff and that he lost interest in me but the twist is that i know he still likes me and stuff cause you cant just stop loving someone in a day but im moving so he preobably is trying to protect himself and lately we are always fighting. sooo what should i do? i emailed him asking how his feeling changed so quickly and that i understand that he might be hurt cause im moving and if he could explain it would be helpful. so i shouldnt do anything anymore until he contacts me right?? i already emailed and he should be the one to talk to me since he said those things. just give me your input please. thank you in advance :)
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I think it is very good that you showed him that he wasn't you life and that you can move on and be fine without him and I know it is difficult not to worry about his feelings, but don't. He broke up with you and that was his loss, if he realizes that he wants to be with you then he will let you know. And if, at that time, you feel like you want to try again go ahead. Do not throw yourself at him and let him know that it's bothering you.
It is good that you guys are trying to be friends, but to do that you are probably just going to have to ignore the fact that you had a past together. Thinking about it and worrying about what went wrong will only make the relationhship more awkward. Let him know your feelings and then back off, let him come to you.
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Um, why are you spending so much time worrying about his feelings and perceptions?
I get that you would like to be nice, but come on, this much worrying is taking it a bit too far. You got dumped. He said he didn't want to be with you anymore, and it sounds to me like, even though that really hurt you, you were ready for the relationship to end as well. You knew things weren't going well.
He no longer has any say in how you live your life. UNLESS you give him that power.
Don't try to contact him agian or ask for explinations. Nothing he says will make you feel any better or make it all make sense.
Don't sit around worrying about what he thinks of the way you are acting. I know you still care for him, but really, it's none of his bussiness and not your problem what he thinks of your choices. You do what you feel comfortable doing and talk to those you choose. You don't do those things to 'prove' to him you can get over him, you do them because you are allowed to make your decisions. You always were.
He's a big boy. He will be fine.
Spend sometime focusing on your feelings, not his.
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