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trust issues .
Well Me and my boyfriend have been dating now for a year & a month. There isint any reason why i shouldnt trust him , but there is a reason why he should'nt me but he does anyways because he says it just makes him feel better and is alot easier to just trust because he would be miserable thinking " what if she's doing this , or what if she's talking to that boy ". Its so hard for me to see him even talking to another girl ; he says he doesnt know how much he can take and im really trying to change its just hard :( Like his friends always go off with my two best friends like to the movies and stuff and [ sometimes ] i cant go with them and his friends want him to go but he always says no because he doesnt want to make me mad & he says he is tired of doing that now & i need to trust him , i mean i know my two best friends would never try anything on his , its just they are both find of the flirting type with out even knowing it. And not being there would just KILL ME , for real ! Just thinking about him actually going with out me hurts but i know he is tired of not having fun just because i cant . He doesnt care if i go with his friends because he trust all of us & i have been to the movies with my friends and his friends with out my boyfriend but that was only because i have no choice , please help .
-Dont sit here and tell me there isint a reason why i shouldnt trust , actually give me ways to learn to trust . Thanks :)
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Trust is something that comes with time but being together so long you both still have clear issues with trust.
You both need to sit down and actually talk things out to get to the bottom of this issue because it can be the kind of thing that will cause the relationship to come under a lot of stress - which is clearly what is already happening. First things first you both need to decide where you both stand when it comes to trust. Do you trust each other or not. If you don't then you both have a major problem. If you do then you both need to realise you do have lives away from each other as well. You both have your own friends to hang out with and do stuff with- you cant constantly be around and with each other all the time, you'd only end up driving each other crazy. Both of you will always have some people trying things on regardless - the trust comes from where you both are able to say no thank you I'm happily taken and not let anything happen. Trying to force yourself to trust will not always work either because at the back of your mind your fears will always be there growing until the very smallest things will spark off doubts. You both need to sit down and talk things through.
Sorry I couldnt be much more help than this.
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