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didnt learn my lesson
a while back me and the bf had sex it was protected but i was so sure i was pregant and starting freaking out and had soemtchae pains, well the sotmache pains were caused from stress, i was so stressed and sure i was pregant i stopped eating and lost 25 lbs and since havent gained it back and told my mom what we did she was upset and banned me to go to his house well she just recently like two days ago let me go over his house...and of course we did it again, we did it twice both times protected and it didnt break that i know of, now my bf's kinda well rllly big and and he likes it rough so he goes extremly fast the next day (yesterday) i kinda had shooting pains in my stomache around my upper abs and bellybutton, and my shoulders are sore and i get this sharp pain in my side to the right of my right boob under my under arm..whats going on? is it me just stressdsing? or could i be pregnantg?
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To quickly answer your question:
It's really doubtful that, if you are pregnant, you are already experiencing pregnancy symptoms. Not to scare you but some STDs do have the stomach pains you are experiencing. You may want to see a doctor and let them know you have been sexually active--from there they may feel STD/STI testing is required.
Chlamydia tends to be the STI that can cause abdominal pain in women. It can actually lead to further complications and a woman can develop PID (pelvic inflammatory disease). In short, it's an infection of the woman's reproductive organs. This can render a woman infertile if left untreated for a period of time.
Pain in your lower abdomen and, in some cases that I've read, bloating after sex can be the first signs of something called endometriosis.
Your problem also could be IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) if it's lower too. IBS also means cramping/pain and bloating. The pain can sometimes be experienced after sex but usually more frequently than that. Usually this is accompanied by constant diarrhea or constipation (which is the most common cause of bloating, by the way).
If you suspect the problem is constipation then you really need to up your intake of fruits, vegetables, wholegrain cereals and bread, wholewheat pasta, and brown rice and beans. Make sure you're well hydrated (8 glasses of water a day). You can also purchase fiber now such as Benefiber or ColonPure (which they sell at GNC).
Pain near your bellybutton can be related to a small intestine disorder or an inflammation of your appendix (appendicitis).
Pain directly above the navel in the upper middle section of the abdomen may be associated with stomach disorders. Persistent pain in this area may also signal a problem with your pancreas or gallbladder.
It's quite important you see your doctor about your symptoms. You need to be completely honest with the doctor so that they are aware of all of the possibilities. They can also administer a pregnancy test to find out if you are in-fact pregnant. Please make an appointment to see your doctor soon.
Now, I understand it's your body, your choice, your life, and possibly even your mistake; however, I felt I should point a few things out to you after answering your question.
I am simply concerned for your well-being and I don't want to see you back here in a few months, pregnant, scared, and miserable. It's best to keep your self informed of what I'm about to say so that you can avoid major tragedies in your life.
I feel like I should bring some things to your attention that you may have overlooked or that you simply were not aware of before. I want you to be in the best situation possible, you see. I'm very concerned about your knowledge about sexual activity and I want you to be in the best situation possible about this.
You are breaking a bond between your parents and yourself, risking your body of catching STDs or getting pregnant (who would you tell then?), and simply lying. Sex is an adult activity and if you can't be adult enough to tell your family that you are/will be engaging in sex then maybe--just MAYBE--you're not ready to put yourself in that situation.
Before starting sexual activity you and your partner should both be very aware of all possible consequences. It is important to be informed so that nobody is hurt in any way at any time. You should really check out some photos of STDs/STIs and what pregnancy at such a young age does to a woman's body before rushing into things. Like I said, it's better to be informed than to trip into something you're absolutely clueless about.
To touch on a few other things:
It was wise to tell your mother the first time that you had engaged in sex and that you may have stepped into a bit of trouble. Even though you weren't pregnant, your mother was very upset that you had disrespected yourself in that manner, I'm sure. What has made this worse is you broke her trust twice now--I'm sure she believed you were going to be able to keep your legs closed if you were able to spend time with your boyfriend. See, now you may have landed yourself into a BIGGER mess than you may think--your mother isn't going to be as trusting of you as she was previously and if you are pregnant you HAVE to tell her in hopes she can help you figure out what to do.
Please do not lie to your mother any more. She is only here to protect you and make sure that you grow and develop into a wonderful person. Give her a chance and listen to what she says. She has been through many things in her life and she can really give you some good advice, I'm sure.
STDs:
Many people now have STDs or STIs and don't even know it. Mothers can also pass their STDs onto their babies so everyone is pretty much at risk of having something they can pass along to others. It's important to be picky on who you have sexual relations with because if you contract an STD/STI from them then some really bad things can happen--including life-long illness, infertility, blindness, brain deterioration, and even death.
No method of birth control is 100% effective. Even if you use two methods of birth control there is still a pregnancy risk. No matter what birth control you use, you also risk contracting an STD or STI. Sometimes STDs/STIs aren't noticed because they don't show symptoms until very late stages--when they've been passed on to multiple partners and are destroying bodies.
Here is a list of some super scary facts about STDs. You'd be surprised at how many people now have some sort of STD and how much money we put toward trying to cure them. This is a really interesting link and it gives you a lot of think about and discuss with your partner:
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Here is also a link of photos of various STDs. Most of the photos are of males but there are a few female photos in there. Some are very scary. Don't worry about many photos popping up when you click the link, they're behind other links so you can choose which ones you might want to check out:
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Pregnancy:
One night of sex can result in creating another life or living with a disease the rest of yours. I know many people who lost their virginity and became pregnant (or had gotten the girl pregnant) the same night. They weren't emotionally ready to have children but they made one mistake and they now have a tough road ahead of them trying to make enough money and time for their child. Having a child means being completely selfless because they need 100% of your attention 100% of the time. Having children means major sacrifices, especially in the emotional department.
Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, consider the consequences of that action too. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.
You're aware you're not financially and emotionally ready to be a parent or you wouldn't worry about pregnancy. I'm sure you want to give your future children the best possibly life and if you contract an STD you may not be able to have children, may be too sick to raise them completely, or may pass something along to them.
It would be especially scary if your partner impregnated you and then left the relationship for you to handle all of the childcare. Being left with not enough income, time, or emotional support to offer a child is frightening. This scenario is happening like crazy all of the world now. People should try to be more pickier on who they reproduce with so they avoid such horrible situations.
Here are some facts about how much a baby costs within the first year of life; you should really check it out just for future issues as the knowledge could come in very handy:
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Virginity:
Virginity should be more valuable than we make it. It's a special thing that we only get one of no matter what we do. The media feeds us a bunch of crap telling us that if we love someone we should give them our bodies. Instead we should be showing our love in other ways and making wedding night extra special for that person. Contrary to popular belief, sex does not make us attractive, rich, famous, liked, or popular.
Here is a link about some things you should think about before engaging in sexual activities any further. Even if you're dead set on continuing these sex acts it's still really interesting to look at. The site really makes you think about things you overlooked before:
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People that are married and have sex don't have as many fears and problems as unmarried sex partners do. They never fear they're being used or will be left. They're able to open up and tell each other what they desire without fear. They know that if a pregnancy happens that they will get through it together with each other's support. They also aren't fearful of catching an STD from their partner because they know they're their only partner. Both partners tend to be fully satisfied because they're able to communicate well with each other and they're able to feel emotionally secure.
Communication and Knowledge:
Before engaging in any sexual activity you need to sit down and discuss everything with your partner. He needs to be just as informed as you are. He needs to know all of the little details--the good and the bad. It is VERY important that he is well notified of EVERYTHING. Have him check out the links with you so he knows the facts too.
So, sit down with your partner and discuss STDs/STIs (look at some photos), pregnancy expenses (just in case), and having a new sexual encounter (possible loss of virginity).
I wish you luck on becoming more knowledgeable about sexual activity so that we don't see you again here in fear of a pregnancy. I also hope that you see your doctor to ensure that everything is healthy and happy in your body.
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Those aren't normally signs of a pregnancy. You wouldn't have any signs this soon--you're probably just freaking yourself out again and it might just be in your head. It isn't totally uncommon to be sore the next day if you had rough sex the night before. Don't stress out over it because it'll only make your situation worse. Chill for a while and if you're still worried take pregnancy test. The test thought will only be good after a missed period. Most likely than so, you're probably not. So calm down.
I do advise you to stop having sex though--at least until you can do so without freaking out. Since your mom knows about the first time maybe she wont reject the idea of birth control. She obviously doesn't want you having sex since she didn't let you go there for a while--but she'll want you to be safe. But seriously--I'd hold off
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