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Hey. My friend, Hali, her sister died today. Car crash. I texted Hali and told her that I'm here for her. But I really don't know what to say. Hali and me were becoming REALLY close friends, and shes really shy. So I'm scared to talk to her, what to say, how to act. Hali lost her cousin over the summer last year, and her family took it hard, really hard. And now this. I'm scared that I'm going to lose my friend, that she'll push people away. I don;t know how it feels to lose a sister, I don;t. So I need help on what to do, what to say. I was thinking of staying with Hali all day at the funeral home whenever that would be. But I don't know. Hali doesn't have any close friends, I think I;m her closes. Please help me =[
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You don't have to say anything- if you're there for her and she really knows it that is enough. She's going through a tough time, and everyone deals with grief differently. Personally, it helps me to be alone but for others it is completely the opposite. So be there for her, at the funeral and everything, but don't try to bring things up or specifically talk to her about it. Most likely, she needs her space but she'll come to you when she's ready. I have a feeling she knows that she's very fortunate to have a caring friend like you.
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I think being there for her at the funeral would be nice of you! It's hard to know how to react in such situations. I think the main thing is to ensure that she knows you are there for her (no matter what time of night). She may just need to be with family for a little while. If she pushes you away, just let her know that you love her and aren't giving up on her. Then give her the space she needs to mourn. Odds are she'll need you for comfort..even if she doesn't realize it at first.
<3 Leslie
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