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Did i do the right thing?!?!!?!?!?
okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile, but i saw in his phone, how some guy was texting him. he was questioning something about my boyfriends myspace. he said something about his "baby" on his myspace. so the guy asked him if this so called "baby" was his little sister {ashanti.} and my boyfriend replied yes, and how he has been wanting to get with her, and he want to wife her up, and all this crap. so we broke up, for good. Was that at all the right thing to do?
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Well, it's really up to you to decide if you made the right move by dumping him but there are a couple of things to think about.
Did the "conversation" honestly seem serious?
Maybe they were having a laugh at what was being said back or forth. If the conversation seemed detailed then maybe it was truthful. If there were lots of things like lol, jk, or lmao then maybe they were just having a little laugh. Usually if the person isn't serious they'll follow their comments with such things. People joke about weird things all of the time and sometimes they simply don't seem so serious to them
What if he was only kidding around?
He may have some sort of inside joke with the guy and they go back and forth about it. Maybe the guy pretends to hit on his sister just to annoy him a little. I've heard plenty of guys say things like, "Your sister is hot!" to each other trying to annoy the other guy. If the sister is quite older, much younger, or even very unattractive he may simply be kidding.
If he was just kidding around, do you really want to be with someone who jokes like that?
If he wasn't serious then you still have the feeling that he may want to be with another woman. I suspect you have reason to disbelieve it was a joke but, if it was, he wasn't very thoughtful of you when saying those things. If he was just kidding then it could also be considered very disrespectful to the little sister.
Any way it is, I hope you communicated to the guy why you dumped him so that he was aware of the situation and had a chance to comment on it. If he was kidding it would bring it to his attention how un-funny it really is. If he was serious then maybe it would help him to realize that he shouldn't be desiring such things (cheating on women). So, you may want to explain why you two broke up if there is any room for it now--though, it's understandable if you choose not to communicate with the guy any longer.
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No, I don't think you did.
Did you even ask your boyfriend about this before you broke up?
Because a) you invaded his privacy by going though his phone and
b) he could have just been joking around. If you haven't figured it out by now, guys have a tendency to joke around about things with their friends & other guys. Even serious things like relationships.
Buuut, if he was serious then yes absolutely you did the right thing.
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I think you did exactly the right thing. If hes talking about some other girl and wanting to be with her its obvious hes not fully in the relationship with you and thats not fair to you.
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