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He can't say it's me
I like this guy and a few of my friends and I go to his house alot. We've been going for almost a month now. But everytime a certain person calls his phone(I think it's his ex) he won't tell her that I'm there. He'll say the others that are there, but not me. And when I ask him about it he just says that the person would get mad if I was there. Anyways to figure out a way to talk to him about it without like complaining?
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To answer the last question first: Tone of voice.
Tone of voice is one of the most difficult things to control and also a different thing to interpret. Make sure to let him know how you feel first and then what you want to know and why. I would tell him how I feel and then ask him who it was. It doesn't really matter who it is though, if you like him and he likes you.
To tackle the "unspeakable" problem you have to understand about lies. Lies have motivation; guilt, fear, greed, etc. and as far as I'm concerned, deliberately leaving out information is the same as lying. (to tell the truth, the WHOLE truth and nothing but...)
If you aren't doing anything wrong, you shouldn't have to lie. So either he feels guilty for hanging out with you or he's afraid of the trouble that that person will cause if they knew.
If it was me, and I cared about you, I would tell that person on the other line how it is.
Good luck,
-Evan
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If it's his ex, he might be disregarding that you're there just to avoid adding fuel to the fire. Some girls would interpret him hanging out with a girl he likes as rubbing it in her face, or trying to make her jealous, or something.
So, since this is really bugging you, talk to him about it sometime. "Hey, why all the secrecy?" It could be something as innocent as "I really like you and I'm embarrassed to admit it around friends" or "oh, I thought I said your name, whoops!" or something. Guys brains can be quite strange sometimes. I've dealt with eccentric ex-boyfriends before, haha.
-LM
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Ask him, "So.... You are embarrassed by me, then?"
Don't jump to conclusions about who is calling. You THINK it's his ex. Maybe it's his mom. Or his grandma. Both of those people would probably find it upsetting that he has his girlfriend over...
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