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boyfriend or not
Okay, here it goes. I am here because i have a huge problem with my ex boyfriend. me and him were having issuses before we broke up, and he made it seem like he wasn't really interested in me that much. he would say he loved me but then he would kind of hurt me. like walk past me with another girl "claiming he was looking for me" or he wouldn't call me when i asked, and then text me 3 HOURS later. just stuipd annoying things like that. and i would always see him and hear about him and this other girl. they are "bestfriends." it got me really mad so i broke it off with him. i told him it was only a break. i think he knows he can just have me back since i said it was a break so he doesn't have to work for me. i told him in order to get back with me he has to show me that he really cares. and he kind of has, kind of hasn't. like he will call sometimes, but honestly he hasn't proved much to me. we hung out last weekend and he told me that he wanted to go back out and he loved me, but it just seems like he wants the easy way out..or in the relationship. we are hanging out again, and i really want to go back out but im not sure if i will just have another repeat of him not caring, and have to go through this whole mess again. what do you think i should do (if you were in my position)?
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He's not making much effort at all. You could decide to get back together and stay stuck in that rut for so long waiting for a change that won't happen. You need to play hard to get or imply somehow that he can't just get back with you so easily. You can talk to him and ask him why he acts this way and that. Bring up the calling incident and ask what happened. But to me, he SOUNDS like he wants to be in a relationship. He probably likes the idea of it but he doesn't seem ready for it and the commitment. Maybe he's afraid, nervous, busy, etc. He's not really showing he cares. If he wasn't going to call you, a simple text would have been nice. Maybe something is going on with him at home, school, with himself or friends, or with some other girl sadly. Just try to open him up and find out what's going on. Maybe he's the type to not.. show that he cares. It's a struggle for some people and maybe this effort he's making is something huge for himself while it's little compared to you. So if you want to get back together, talk things through and make things clear before. But if talking doesn't open his eyes to how he is.. I would just break it off. Maybe that would make him realize something and if not, you'll find someone a lot better than that.
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Well I don't think that he has proven to you that he still loves you. Him saying that he loves you is losing its meaning if he isn't showing you that he still does. Tell him that he still hasn't proven to you that he still loves you as much as you love him. If he still does love you he will start showing it and you won't feel like you are taking a chance of this happening again. Hope i helped
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