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what should i do?
im a f/18 and i was wondering what should i do about my cousin/ bestfriend. she basically stole the guy away from me that i liked and now they are going out. neither of them talk to me anymore. And i tried talking to her and she has changed. She even goes to the same school as my other cousin well call her L. And she even treats L like crap too, she wont even drive her to school. But she would rather drive this other kid who is all of a sudden like her bestfriend. she has changed and when i tried to talkt to her the other day, its like she didnt care our friendship or hurting me. and the thing is that besides me and L. she has no other real friends. the three of us used to be soo closee.
what should i do? Pleaseee help!!!
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It sounds as if your cousin could be going through something right now that she may not be discussing with anyone. It also sounds as if this "something" is a pretty big deal and she really needs someone to intervene.
If this is the case, the one thing you should NOT do is desert her. She may be crying out for help about something that she doesn't know how to begin to discuss. If the 3 of you used to be so close and she is now treating both of you in a negative manner... it is possible that she could be trying to separate herself from the two people she is closest to so she doesn't either drag you into something, or push you away so she doesn't have to feel emotions about something.
I don't say for a second that this is going to happen... but for example: She could be trying to get the two of you angry at her so if she does something to hurt herself... in her mind it won't hurt you two as much because you are so angry with her. It is also possible that perhaps she feels so negatively about herself she doesn't feel she "deserves" your friendship so she is pushing you away.
I have NO CLUE what is going on with your cousin but I can say that the LAST thing you want to do is push her away right now without knowing 100% certain what her reasons are for this behavior. She may have just turned into a nasty person... but this is rarely the case. It really sounds to me with the little bit of history you gave that she is needing you most now which is ironically why she is pushing you away.
You may want to let her know that you love her no matter what, you are concerned about how she is behaving and what may have lead up to this behavior, and that if she needs you, you are there for her... and even get a little nosey if you suspect somthing really bad might be going on. It could end up being a matter of life and death, though I hope this is not the case.
Best of luck.
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