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16/f/Connecticut, USA
This boy recently (In January) Moved to CT. His name is Rob. Rob moved here from Florida. Over the past few weeks, Rob and I have gotten very close. We both like each other. We've become friends with benefits. I really want a relationship with him. But last night, he told me that he was moving in June, back to Florida. He had just found out.
Now I have to make a choice: Remain friends with him and keep making memories and get hurt really bad when he has to move OR save myself now and cut him off.
I really like Rob. I really do. Im completely heartbroken over this whole thing.
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Hi,
As difficult as this may seem, things like this are all part of life.
I don't think there is any need to, or benefit in cutting him out. It may be difficult to adjust when he first makes the move back - but you will both come to accept the new circumstances, and lets be honest its not difficult to stay in touch in the 21st centaury!
When I was your age a good friend of mine moved to Chicago (I live in England, UK) - we still remain good friends - it can work honest!!
Chandler XX
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Enjoy your friendship if you can.
End your friendship with benefits.
You aren't, and you wont, get what you want from this guy: A relationship. You already know this. I am a rather firm believer in the 'three month rule', which is basically the idea that it takes approxiamtely three months to make major life decisions. If a guy is still leaving you in limbo after three months, move on, because he will leave you there forever.
I know, it hasn't been quite three months yet, but we both know a few more weeks isn't going to change this ones mind. You know the path you are on.
FWBs only ever work out if both partners want the same thing. You two don't. You will get hurt if you continue sleeping with him, even if he wasn't moving away.
Take this move as the blessing it is, and stop sleeping with him. If you can enjoy his friendship in a plutonic way, do so. If it's too painful for you, or if you can't resist jumping back into bed with him, then cut him out.
This is a blessing, really it is. Use it as a chance to shake a guy who isn't able to give you what you want.
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