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ok so my boyfriend lives in massachusetts and i live in newyork. mhm, one of those long distance things. we're both 16. well im spending the week at his house in april for spring break. i havent seen him since the summer. and we have never gone past second base. and i want to show him that i do really love him but i DO NOT think i am ready to have sex. so i was thinking of giving him head, but heres the thing. i dont know how? any tips, or advice?
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If you're not ready to have sex then you're not ready to have oral sex. Oral sex IS sex and you can get just as many STDs from that as you can having vaginal intercourse.
Serious risks include:
1. Herpes is probably the biggest STD risk during oral sex. Both strains of herpes can live in the mouth or the genitals, and particularly during outbreaks (cold sores, herpes lesions) can be passed from one place to the other. More than 50% of a random group of people will have antibodies to the virus (indicating some level of infection). Genital herpes is complicated and uncomfortable. Herpes can be passed on even if no sores are present.
2. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can infect your throat, showing strep like symptoms. These can also infect the eye; eye infections can have serious consequences. Roughly, 80% of women who have chlamydia have no symptoms and it can prevent them from ever having children.
3. HIV can be passed through unprotected oral sex. The infected semen/precum or vaginal fluid must enter the body through a cut or sore in the mouth or esophagus. You may not even be aware you have a cut in your mouth or throat. Some people take up to 10 years to show that they have contracted HIV/AIDS.
4. HPV can be passed during oral sex. HPV has been found on vocal chords. There is no test to find out if a man has HPV and men usually show no symptoms.
5. Syphilis can be passed similar to HIV. Signs and symptoms are indistinguishable from those of other diseases so some people go a long time without knowing they have it. Mothers can pass this onto their babies without knowing it.
6. Hepatitis A is also a risk, but usually only oral-anal contact. Hep A is not a chronic condition like Hep B and C, but can make a person quite sick several weeks.
Also think about what you're saying now. Before you two had gone to second base. Now you want to give him oral sex. Next visit you'll want to have vaginal intercourse, most likely, but will you be truly ready to deal with that responsibility?
Instead of showing him love by doing sexual favors then why don't you make a nice plan for the week? Dinners, movies, even research some things you two can travel to close by that he's never seen before--museums even.
Some ideas for fun, neat things to do together are:
Rollerskating/blading, snuggling up and reading a long book together, taking a walk together, make dinner together, go to a nice restaurant neither of you have been to, visit local attractions, help with chores (especially the ones he doesn't like; many couples say this is particularly loving of their mate), paint pictures or even his room together (get approval from parents if you do this), throw a party and invite all of his friends for you to meet again, watch old cartoons and bring back childhood memories, go swimming together, have a campfire and roast marshmallows with friends and family, go dancing together, create a photo album or scrapbook together of this visit, play a board game, etc.
Make good, lasting memories of the short period of time you get to be together. It may seem like he'll remember a blow job forever but he, most likely, won't as the years go by.
Wouldn't you two like to look back years down the road and have giggles about the silly things you remember and the good times you had during the week? You'll be able to tell your future friends and possible children and grandchildren all about the neat things you two did together.
Love is not sex and sex is not love. Anyone can have sex. Prostitutes have sex every day in every way with many different people and they never love any of them.
Show him you love him by doing something else. Don't fall into the stupid teenage crowd.
I wish you luck on figuring out something better to do with your time on your visit to your boyfriend's house.
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he obviously really loves you if hes been going out with you for this long without seeing you! thats a crazyyy long time (since the summer) to not see your girlfriend! he obviously is really dedicated to you. you dont need to prove anything to him. if you arent ready to give him head, then dont. do only what you're comfortable with. but if you really wanna go through with it.. type 'how to give head' into google.com. good luck girll <33 have fun in massachusettssss
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hunny you dont have to show your boyfriend you love them by having sex with him.....if he loves you he will wait until ur ready
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