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jealous vs. protective
how can you tell the difference in a jealous type boyfriend vs. just a protective one? obviously one is protective and one acts jealous but can you elaborate for me? bc he claims to not be jealous haha but he kind of acts otherwise.
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Here's a good way to tell: If you are hanging out with other guys who are generally good people and are not going to endanger you, then your boyfriend shouldn't get jealous unless you're openly flirting with them. If he gets jealous, then he's being out of line. However, if you are hanging out with a bunch of sleazeballs who are probably going to rape you and your boyfriend comes to the rescue, then that's okay. If he wants to know where you are every second of the day, or texts you several times a day just asking what you're doing, then he is being overbearing. Don't ever let him control your life or what you do and make sure to develop friendships aside from the one with your boyfriend. I know people who were in long-term relationships and only hung out with each other, and then when they broke up they had no friends. If you ever feel like he's being even slightly jealous, then he is. If you're okay with him hanging out with other girls (and hopefully you trust him) then he should give you the same trust back.
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Both an overly jealous boyfriend AND an overly protective is a problem.
Both can be controlling and munipulative behavoirs designed to make you behave the way he would rather you behave. In the simplest sense: Jealously gets angry and accuses you of betrayal, over-protiveness get whinny and tries to improve you.
If he trying to restrict your socailizing with anyone, or makes you report on the time you aren't with him: He has a problem. If he thinks that his feelings are caused by your behavoir (ie "I'm upset because you wore a low neck shirt) He has a probblem.
You are uncomfortable with his expectations or his behavoir, then you both have a problem.
Don't worry so much about labeling the behavoir as 'jealous' or not. Consider if it is 'acceptable' or not.
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