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virgin, oral sex and giving a guy satisfaction
so, i'm a virgin.
i've never really been concerned with sex but now i'm in a relationship with a guy whom i really love and is very considerate of my being a virgin. he's way more experienced than me but he doesn't care about that.
he gave me oral the other day and i had to tell him to stop cuz it hurt. i need some comments on why i had pain. plz?
also: i need some tips on how to give him pleasure too. i don't want to leave him doing all the work and unsatisfied.
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You never need to apologize for being a virgin, or think someone is doing you a favor by not pushing you to do more than you are ready for. Your virginity is not a bad thing, it is part of who you are right now. Oral sex should never ever be painful, and he most likely was being insensitive or is not as experienced as he pretends to be, at least not in pleasuring someone other than himself. Whether it was his mouth or fingers that hurt you, it is not something you should just let go. I am glad you had the guts to finally tell him to stop. For now, you should concentrate on your own feelings emotionally and physically and figure out what you want and how. He needs to listen to you. You know your own body...this is not about experience, and he is not more knowledgeable than you on the topic of your own body. For cunnilingis, you are the instructor and he is the student. Tell him to be gentle and use only his tongue for now. You can tell him more as you figure out what you want. Sex is about fun and exploring together, and should never be pressured or painful. Don't worry about pleauring him until he gets this right for you. He should be enjoying giving you oral and that is its own reward. You are doing him a favour by letting him do it...believe me, if a guy thinks it is work, there is something wrong with him.
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Ok...Let me keep it real with you, If it hurt then he was doing it wrong. Straight up. Now maybe he wasn't doing it wrong for some chick he had before, but he is doing it wrong for you. You gotta tell him what you like and I know you are new so you don't really know what you like yet. I would say this, tell him to like you but not to bite you or suck you, sometimes if the man sucks your clit it can hurt, so just tell him to like lick your thighs and lick your clit and vagina but don't suck it yet. See how you like that. tell him to lick it fast and then lick it slow, move around stuff like that. tell him to rub it too, you may or may not like fingering, i didn't like it at first and then it grew on me. Start off with one finger and move on up as you get comfortable. Now if you want to give him pleasure the best thing to do is to give him a really good hand job. Here is a link with some relaly good techniques (NOTE: before you go on these websites there are some example pictures and sexual content ok, but it is not explicit, they are helpful: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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if you have more questions or what some more advice just hit me up. hope this helps. Peace
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