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Awful Dorm Neighbor- Advanced Avoidance Techniques Needed
I live in a dorm at my university, and I live next to a girl that I absolutely cannot stand. Last semester, my roommate and I noticed that no one was being very nice to this girl (who we'll call Bertha). So, we decided that instead of being mean and nasty to her, we'd try to be nice so that she felt welcome on our floor. Oh boy, was that a mistake. When Bertha's roommate moved out, she became like a parasite in our room, always there, no matter what. She never leaves, and even asks to stay in our room when we aren't there. Bertha has several rude and annoying habits as well, such as farting, burping, spilling things all over our room and refusing to clean them up, talking over our t.v. shows and eating our food without permission. We've asked her to leave repeatedly, and she just ignores us. We've even stopped being friendly to her, but she just won't go away! I've already had to quit one of my activities because she constantly humiliated me there, and I'm at my wit's end. We're moving out next year, but I'm not sure I'll last until the end of the semester if I can't think of some really good ways to avoid her. Please help me!
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I know you want tips to avoid her, but the truth is, I don't think from what you have said that avoiding her will work. Sounds like the way she is, she will just continue to act this way with you and the other people in your room, with or without your presence. Really, the only way you can deal with this is to confront her about it. Not a nice idea, I know, but someone has to stand up to her behaviour.
Next time she acts like this, you and your friends need to form a united front and tell her once and for all that if she continues to behave the way she is, she will not be welcome in your room. It's YOUR room and you have the right to decide how you and your belongings get treated in it.
If she continues to do this, lock the door if you can, so she can't get in. If you can't lock the door, then you need to speak to whoever is in charge of where you are staying, Landlord, Dean, whoever, and explain the situation. Hopefully, someone in a position of greater authority might be able to do something if she still won't listen.
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Talk to the dean and get a different dorm room.
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wow that stinks...
a few things you should try are: write her a letter tellling her how you feel, tell her to meet you somewhere and talk, or if its that bad than maybe you should talk to the dean.
hope i helped
good luck!
Lauren
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