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Trust...where are you?
Well me and my girl have been togather for 4 years, theres been good times and bad... but last year cheated on me.. hardcore cheated and ever since i havnt been able to trust her. I conpletely understand that trust is a big factor in a relationship but its just not there. we've been togather since then broken up... got back... and no we are kinda normal. where the problem lies is i sumtime ( not always) cant look at her with out going back to BS memories...i sumtimes feel that i have PTSD but i cant be sure but i guess my question is how can be with soneone how Fucked me over so bad (like cold heartless i dont care anymore bad). i love her but if she does it again i know i cant be with her anymore. And if she has conciously has done it more than 5 time wat r the chance's she will do it again WHAT CAN I DO I'M JUST TIRED...
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Listen to your gut. You are stressed and worried beyond all reason: That is your gut telling you this is a bad situation that is getting worse. Dump her and move on.
It's good that you can realize that if she does it agian you can't be with her, but you need to realize that you are not able to be with her right now either: This just isn't working for you.
You can't be with someone you can't trust. That doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a second (sixth?) chance, maybe she does! But you CAN'T give it to her, and that is fine, but you need to be honest with yourself about it.
You are not someone who is married with three kids so there is no compelling reason for you to drag yourself through the mud to make this work when it clearly isn't working.
Tell her the truth: You can't get past the betrayal and it looks like you never will, so you will have to go seperate ways.
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If she's done it more than five times. It's time to move on after the second time you should have left her. I've been in a on and off relationship, and we had NO trust. He cheated on me twice. No matter what you do you are always gonna think of it. She's gonna keep hurting you. A relationship with no trust is really stressful and painful. Move on. Try to stay friends or at least end it in good terms. But it'd be best if you ended the relationship. After two or more times and no trust, usually it goes down the drain.
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If you think she's right for you, stay with her. If you don't, drop her. It's as simple as that. If the relationship is going smoothly, don't dump her. Just talk to her about it. Tell her you don't want to be clingy but you want to trust her and you find it really hard to. She should be on your side with this.. and if she cheats again, her loss, dump her! A sweet guy like you, no one should cheat on! She won't know what she's going to miss until you're gone, so say bye to her! There are so much girls who are more serious about relationships than the girl you have now!
-Jeni C ♥
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