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Do I need to do more?
I'm usually the type of girl who doesn't call the guy first or contact them at all in the beginning, but once we're in a "stable" relationship, I'll start calling them or texting them first.
I guess you can say I got this from my mother. I once told her I called this guy (even though we had been talking awhile) and she got mad and said, "No! He's supposed to call you!" So ever since then I've never called.
And maybe I'm scared of when they don't answer!
Well, here's my point:
The guy I like is younger than me, about 2 years. I don't care, though! He likes me a lot and I like him, yet he never calls or texts me. He's texted me three times over the month we have been talking at school. Recently, he's told my friends, "Oh, she doesn't do anything, I'm not about to call or text her. She needs to call me." And he said in a way I should 'chase him.' I have texted him twice, too. I do NOT chase boys! I don't want to come across as desperate! I really like him. I don't kno if he's just being immature, an a-hole, or if I really do need to do more?
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Nah dont go for it sure you really like him still if hes going to your friends saying that hes being sorry for wat im bout to say hes being a douche bag and immature. From how you are you seem like a nice and pretty girl, that plain old pisses me off that he says that but yea if you wanna talk bout this more i can help you out ive had girlfriends like this but yea if you wanna talk heres my # 1-615-556-5953 or just text me i can help you out alot more texting or talking but wat ever you feel like doing is ok
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If you would really like something to happen here, then yes, you need to make a move.
Let me clear this up for you though: You are BOTH being immature expecting the other person to do the 'chasing'.
It's not a rule that men must call first. It's a power game and it always has been. In the old days, rejection was one of the only powers women had in relationships, so everyone was very protective of idea of men approaching women frist. In a society of equals however, that kind of thinking is petty and mean.
As you've now noticed, it put someone (you) in a very uncomfortable and vunerable position when someone (him) isn't honest about thier feelings and expects to be 'chased'.
It doesn't feel good when it happens to us, and guys don't like it when it happens to them.
This praticular guy may or may not be an asshole, but either way consider him a practice guy and give calling him a try. It will only help you in the future to have this skill.
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