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I want to get married...
so...I need help. I am dating this guy and weve been together for 6 months n he wants 2 marry me and I want 2 marry him but I m not sure about it. What should I do? I'm 14 and he's 16.
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You need to look at your options and your understanding of him as a person. Because two people like or even love each other doesn't necessarily mean they really should get married. When two people get married, love isn't the only thing they should share. They should be able to help each other exist and live in the world. They should be able to build upon each other without distracting each other from being efficient and happy at the same time. Granted, many couples have trouble with this more than others, and if it's not right then there's nothing keeping them from moving on from each other. But nobody would like getting divorced and admitting that they were wrong about the person they married. So it's really better to get it right the first time. So ask yourself some questions. How mature is he? Is responsible? Would he make a good father? Does he make me want be a better person? Can I trust him? If we couldn't see each other for a few months, would I want to break up with him and move on? Do I know him well enough to be able to predict him? (And what I mean by that is: Do you know his character enough to be able to have a full understanding of him?) If you have known this person for a long time (longer than you've been dating) then maybe you know him well enough to really answer these questions. Additionally, the answer to them doesn't -have- to be yes. But if he's not mature enough, or isn't responsible, or so on, ask yourself "Can he change his flaws?" A person who is aware of and accepts his or her flaws can change them much easier than somebody who doesn't. For example, if he has a short temper, does he know about it? Does he acknowledge his temper? Does he apologize for it? Does he talk about it?
If you want my short answer: Just wait. Maybe he won't like you sustaining the answer to his question. But if you aren't 100% sure about it and have to think about it for even a moment, then you need more time with him to know if you should marry him. Don't tell him no or yes. Simply tell him that if he wants to marry you, then he should give you the time you need to answer it and simply keep showing you that he would make a good husband for you.
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