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getting over him/finding someone new.
15/f
I have fallen extremely hard for this guy. And my friend did too. I now realize it isn't going to work out between him and me, and he really isn't that great of a person anyway. The problem is, I just can't seem to get over him. I still think about him non-stop, and I always end up feeling miserable because I know I can't have him. I really just want this to end. So how do I get over him?
Also, I'd really like to find someone new, but I don't even know when to begin even more. Can I have some ideas on how to do that? And something other than join a club please, because I plan on doing that already.
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Your problem is that you think you can't get over him, which in turn causes your life to connect a series of events to further that thought. So lets move off of theories and on to a solution. A club is good and all, but it doesn't help if you still see him a lot during other times. It will just make your head spin with thoughts you don't want.
And the solution to problems like these tend to be just as hard if not harder. But I'm not trying to discourage you from trying, I'm simply warning you that you'll have to go with any advice anyone gives you through and through or have to settle with being depressed all the time.
Best thing I would suggest is to try and push him out of your mind, and maybe your life if you have to. Which means you should start avoiding him. If he goes a certain route to class that passes you, find another one. Find distractions that keep your mind off him like HW or a book or talking to friends. If you se him at the corner of your eye, look away or don't even notice. The sooner you can stop seeing him or paying attention to where he is and stuff, the sooner his image will fade away in your mind.
I personally hate giving this type of advice, but it tends to work. Although I suggest taking someone elses advice if it seems more optimistic than what I suggest...
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The only thing that I can think of is that you would hate to see him th your friend or with someone else because you probably THINK that you like him a lot. You can only figure out a way to stop thinking bout him because no one can really do it for you. So don't try to find another boy just to get your mind off of the other boy because he's only going to be a replacement. Hope whatever I said made sense and help
-Courtney
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oh boy do i ever know how that feels.
when i was 14 i fell head over heels for a guy on the opposite end of the county. we'd been friends for almost a year and talked everyday, so life without him seemed impossible.
while it's definetely not what you want to hear right now, time does heal everything.
it's been about two years and now i'm perfectly fine without him, but back when he stopped talking to me, i thought my world was falling apart.
one thing that really helped me, though it's kinda dorky, is writing a series of haikus based on how i felt. i got addicted to them, i wrote them everywhere. but it truly did make me feel better.
as far as meeting someone new, joining a school club is a dumb idea. i've never met anyone interesting through clubs.
maybe one thing you can do is tell a bunch of people to invite their friends to a certain party, people you haven't met and don't know. obviously if your friends think they're cool, you're bound to have something in common.
beyond that, all the advice i have is don't be shy; put yourself out there. sit next to a cute guy at a highschool football game and strike up conversation. asking people what time it is is a really good way to break the ice.
good luck, i hope everything works out!
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