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Selfish Or Concerned?
My b.f and I have been dating for 10 months and we are really in to each other. Have even made plans for our future. The thing is that hes so ambitious! Were both in our second year of univ. so we both work pretty hard. Thing is that he also has a new part time job thats making him work late hours. I am afraid im not going to see him as much and that our relationship could suffer. Am i being selfish and what should i do? Oh and hes missing out on valentines day this Thursday cause he works. Our first valentines together as well. Im a little down about it.
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I think you are being selfish and concerned, if you really don't like his hours talk to him about he will probly understand. You shouldn't feel bad about not having your boyfriend with you on valentines I have a boyfriend that lives in vegas and his grandma and my dad don't get along so all I can do is talk to him on the phone or write to him it's already been two months scince I seen him.
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it is perfectly normal to be a little upset about not getting to see him as much. however, you have to remember that he needs to have a good job and such to support his schooling and such. but i think it's okay to be upset about him missing valentine's day. esp since it's your first. maybe you could talk to him about it, and tell him you are happy that he is getting more work, but you miss seeing him and ask him if there's any way you could see eack other on valentine's day because it's important to you. good luck.
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It can sound selfish or concerned depending on how you approach it. For example, coming up to him and either accusing him of working long hours or suggesting he quit would probably be a bad idea. However, it would probably be a good idea if you, in a loving, concerned way, brought up how sad you are about missing valentine's day together, and about not getting to see him as much.
Likely, he will be feeling similar things, and appreciate that you care about how much you see him and such. While cutting down hours may or may not be an option, try not to directly suggest he cut these hours down. Brainstorm together ways that would keep your relationship just as strong and close, for example, emailing and calling when you can't see him, or having a valentine's day date on another day. He may or may not solve the work issue on his own, but either way that is ultimately for him to decide.
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