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My boyfriend & i have been fighting non stop.
My boyfriend & i of about 5 months fight non stop every night for like the past month. We have been fighting about his exs & about stupid stuff. Such as hes trying to be friends with them even though i don't want him to talk to girls. I feel like hes going to go with them because there better.and lately he's been acting like he doesn't love me. Like he doesn't show it in the ways he used to. I just don't want this relationship to be over. I need advice how to get over this fighting. adn how i can trust him more.
Thanks soo much please help me!!!
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That's harsh not to let him be free, if you want a stable relationship, trust him, let him be friends, it wont have harm done. If you love him you have to put trust in him, and if he doesn't wanna go out anymore, it's his lost, but dont try to control his life too much, that makes things worst and he wont want to be with someone that controls him. would you?
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Although I don't think that your boyfriend should get back together with any of his exs, forbidding him to talk to girls period could certainly do a lot to harm a relationship.
Most people have both guy and girl friends. Telling someone that they can only talk to and hang out with certain people (ei, guys) is controlling and not a reasonable way to control jealousy. If you are really worried about your guy getting back together with one of them behind your back, you should talk to him about it, saying something like "I know I'm being irrational, but I get worried when you try to be friends with people you used to have feelings for," instead of "You can't talk to her." It's like when your parents tell you who you can and can't hang out with. It's gonna make you mad at them, right?
No matter what he did or did not do in the past with these girls, he has a right to see them. Of course there's a possibility that he could cheat; there's always that possibility. Just like when your parents try to make you do something, you ultimately choose what to do based on how they treat you (just to use that analogy again).
Be careful not to control too much what he does, and you'll both be happier. If you find you can't trust him, examine why. If you actually have a reason (like solid proof that he's cheated), break up with him. If not, it may take you a while to have complete "trust" in him. That's okay, as long as you still act acceptably, and let him see who he wants to in a non-romantic way. The best way, sometimes, to feel a certain way is to act a certain way.
Don't nag him about things he shouldn't be nagged about, and if you are concerned about anything, approach him in a loving (not accusing) way.
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ok i went through this exact thing. i didnt think me and my man would last because i thought he was cheating on me if he talked to a girl or if his ex was around he would just leave me. the thing is, about 80 percent of the time, they arent doing anything. my boyfriend and i would grow away from eachother becuz of it but now we have been together for over a year. just dont worry about because even if he does talk too a girl it doesnt mean he wants her. unless you know for a fact that he is cheating or no he has, dont sweat it. its a waist of time and a waist of life. i hope you take my advice.
Ashleigh
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