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mom mad
okay, 15f, and my mom just bought me a new piece of furniture.heres the story:
i was at my house, my parents went out to the mall, my mom saw a piece a furniture that she really liked for me, and tried sending a pic of it to me a bunch of times, but it didnt work so she just bought it. when she came home she asked me if i liked it, and i really didnt...it just wasnt my style, and downright ugly. i told her i didnt really like it because it wasnt my style, but i was thankful for her thinking of me, and she got mad at me because it was $200.00 and i didnt like it. so to make her happy i told her i liked it and i would keep it, but she told me for now on she was going to only buy for her and my dad. did i do something wrong? what do i do?
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Being a kid can be just as difficult as being a parent sometimes. Your mom had the best, loving, thoughtful intentions that kind of backfired and you got a bit stuck in situation.
The only thing you did "wrong" would have been to voice the opinion that you weren't crazy about it but thank you for thinking of me. It probably would have been best just to thank her and accept it.
But then you have the problem of being stuck with an ugly piece of furniture that you don't really like. This is, however, the sacrafices we make trying to make our loved one's happy. Little kids sometimes make things for mom or dad that are hidious but mom and dad NEVER get rid of them because they understand the love that went into it.
However, in this situation she DID buy it with the risk that you may not like it. If she was unable to get a picture sent to you, it might have been better for her to either take you back with her the next day, or buy it with the idea that she may need to return it.
I suggest that you try talking to her again. Wait until she is in a better mood and DO NOT bring up the fact that you don't like it. This situation goes beyone whether or not you liked it. Your mom's feelings were hurt because you "turned down her gift". A better dialogue would be something like, "I don't want you to stop thinking of me and surprising me with gifts. I thought it was so nice of you to do this. I really appreciate it and love you for being so thoughtful. Please don't be mad at me anymore. Why don't we hang out this weekend and do something fun, just the two of us?"
I really don't believe it is about the ugly piece of furniture. It is more likely about your mom missing her kid while she was out shopping and wanted to do something loving and it was turned down. Now she feels rejected. I think you can easily make it up to her by spending some quality time with her letting her know how much you love her.
But did you do something wrong? I don't think so. These little quarrels are a part of life in a family. You two will be okay.
Best of luck.
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