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i don't know which guy to chose.. :/
k hey! i was just looking at your page and it seems like you're really helpful. This is kind of a long story, but i really need some good advice, other than my friends. Well, i'm 14 turning 15 in 2 weeks. i'm involved with 2 guys. they are both older than me, 17. Tony lives like 10 min. down the street, and sal lives almost and hour away. (we didn't meet over the internet, he's my cousin's friend)
i've known sal for almost 2 years, and we've only seen each other about 4 times. we have a pretty strong relationship for not seeing each other every day. we talk almost every day. but i feel like i'm wasting my time because i have tony who's right there. like down the street! i know it's stupid to have doubts because one of them i could see in a second, and the other i couldn't. but i really care about them a lot and i don't want to hurt them. but i want to do what's best for me. you know? so what do you think i should do? i can't keep both of them. it's not right. sorry if this is tough, i just need some help. if i didn't give you enough info just message me back and i'll give you more.
please right back soon. :D
thanks so much. <3
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Well, it all comes down to who you think would give you more of what you want. If you want like, a committed, long relationship, you might wanna go with Sal, if you can handle the long distance thing.
If you want someone close who you can talk to and see every day - if you're a physical person (not necessarily sex, but hugs and kisses too), then you should go with Tony.
BUT I have to warn you, I've never had a good experience with a long distance relationship. This is just from personal experience, but that's all I can work from. I was with a guy for almost two years - he went to Florida for college and I stayed in Michigan. He had trouble keeping contact because he was so busy, and the connection between us died because I wanted more - I was used to him living down the road, and all of a sudden he was states away. It's probably harder when you're used to the long distance thing, but there's a reason a lot of people don't do it, it's not easy.
I know a couple, one of them is in MI and one's in Chicago. They've been together for five years or something - six? and they're even having trouble with it.
But if you're more attracted to Sal than to Tony, go for the long distance thing. Go for the guy you're really drawn to. If you're just attracted to Tony 'cause he's literally "right there," then you should probably rethink some stuff.
I hope this helps, feel free to contact me again if you want more help.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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