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Alright this is going to be semi-long so only read if you are honestly interested. It's quite intriguing...HAA.
Alright so I am a freshman in high school. I made a best friend right away, (call her P). We are basically sisters for life. Through every hardship, it brings us even closer. She had one class last semester that had juniors in it, one in particular (call him M).
One day M and P and I went to hang out with him at his work...and had a really fun time. It was the first time I met him, and you could tell it was love at first sight...So ever since then, he got my number and we texted. Then he started calling me. We got along great! And this whole time he had a girlfriend, (call her A).
So we got so close as to him actually confessing that he loves me. It must have taken him some guts to do that! And not long after, I said I loved him too...and we both meant it. It was amazing. He always said the right things. And if he didn't he would know just how to turn it around and make me happy.
Again, he had a girlfriend. M and I "hooked up" a couple times...nothing too far at all..trust me. and yes I know that was wrong on my part but forgive me! We were in love and I guess I wanted to see him too badly to stop myself.
This was all a secret, for a couple weeks until I was just tired of it. I kept thinking with the help of my friend (call her R) to support me and realize that if he actually LOVED me he would dump his girlfriend and be with me. But the thing is he "couldn't just get rid of her". They had been going out over a year...And have had a few ALMOST break-ups. A is just too nice.
So I actually myself told him that he would dump her...but no! It wouldn't happen. Never did. It got so dramatic from there. We weren't getting along...and I even said to him if he didn't tell his girlfriend that we hooked up than I would..so I DID! It felt so much better to be the better person! But it wasn't worth it because she didn't care. She said herself "Things happen" and just went on with her life. They're STILL TOGETHER.
Everyone in our schools that knows either M or me knows what happened...it spread so fast. I mean our school can't keep a secret haha. and I don't care who knows honestly. Becuase I had to go through the pain of telling A ANNDD P. My best friend, who I LIED TO! :[
Anyway, he broke my heart more than once and I convinced myself I am over it...so many times. But randomly it strikes back at me and I don't know waht to do. I want to cry. and I kind of did earlier...but I stopped myself. I want to not care!
After everything that he "ended" supposedly, breaking my heart again...said it HAD TO even though no one wanted it to...and everyone thinks I mean KNOWS he made the wrong decisions, I finally decided to let it go and be his friend, no matter how hard that was for me.
But lately we have been drifting apart. I can't take it. I haven't talked to him in over a day, and it's already 8:15 PM and he hasn't texted me once. My thoughts wonder so much...wonder about if he cares that we don't talk. Or if he's thinking about me. Or if he's planning on talking to me later or anything..
What I'm asking for is advice for possibly getting over everything completely...or how to talk to him! I don't know anythign right now. I was put through so much and while it was tragic yet exciting...i loved it! I hated it too, but I want him back. At least as a friend.
PLEASE AND THANK YOU
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sorry to say this but that guy seems like a jerk. if he really loved you like he said he did, he would of broken up with his girlfriend. but hey, its highschool and drama is what its all about right? and trust me ive been in this situation and have had friends been in a situation similar to this, it happens. but a day without talking is pretty much nothing. i have a guy who is my best friend. we havent talked in like a month because we go to different school's and stuff and he has a girlfriend so he is always busy, but he IS STILL my best friend. no matter what. and he feels the same way. just because you havent talked to him for a day doesnt mean anything. if you wanna talk to him, try texting him :) saying hey whats up..i miss you! thats what i do with my best friend joe! and he does the same back. it seems as though you will have to make the first move if you want his friendship! good luck hun.
and let me know if you need anything else
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Honestly, I think this guy is too much. If he LOVES you, he would've broken up with her way before he confessed his love to you. You don't just keep a secret lover behind your girlfriend's back. You take one, and if you have 2, you're classified as a player. Tell him how you feel, but also I think you should set him straight. Tell him you're done waiting around, done with believing how much he seems to "love" you. You tell him that he has to choose who he wants, and if he chooses her, you keep your head strong, because I can tell that you're capable of it. He's been playing with your heart and that's not right to do to a girl who is in love with him. You tell him that he can either choose you, or be friends but close friends, not just drift away because it's hurting the both of you. You can't keep getting pushed around just because you love him! GOOD LUCK!
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