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I want him back but don't know whether to tell him
14/f
Me and my ex-boyfriend (let's call him C) split up about 1 and a half months ago. At the time I thought my feelings for him had gone, and also there was another guy in my life, M, who at the time I thought I preferred. Just in case this sounds like I was cheating on C, I wasn't, I just liked M. When me and C broke up M told me he liked me.
But a few weeks after me and C split up, my feelings for him grew again, and now I have a lot of feelings for him.
Apparently he's still in love with me, he writes stuff about me on his livejournal, but he hasn't written anything mentioning feelings about me for a week now, and yesterday my friend L told me her boyfriend B said C may not want to go back out with me.
Thing is, I'm sure he still has a lot of feelings for me, and I really want to know exactly how he feels about me.
He's an amazing person and he means so much to me. I really miss spending time just me and him, but we can't do that anymore. I really want us to be something, to be more than this...but I don't think I want to be in a couple. He has no clue I still like him, and the only way we can be something is if he knows, but I don't know whether to tell him or not.
I'm scared that if I tell him, I'll end up hurting him again. He's so important to me and I don't want to hurt him, he doesn't deserve that.
So basically I don't know what to do.
Do I tell him? And if so how?
Or do I not tell him but somehow make us more than friends?
Or do I just leave it?
Thanks in advance, sorry it was long, xxx
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Before you approach him, figure out what the hell it is you want.
You can only hurt him if you don't have your own wishes straight before approaching him. The last thing he needs is to be the victim of your uncertainity.
Only once you figure out what is you want, can you honestly tell him what that is and can he honestly tell you if he is up for it.
Leave it for now and just focus on being a good, respectful friend. Keep your eyes open and think long and hard about what you think the ideal situation would be for the two of you before you appraoch him.
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well, it seems to me that you broke it off with him and you now regret it, correct?
well, like i always say, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a good friend. even if it is your ex!
im starting to be really good friends with my ex. and even though its still hard for me to see him with other girls, im thinking we are going to get back together in the near future.
cause thats just what good friends end up doing! try to be his friend first. invite him on a group date thing. get to know him better as a friend. its going to happen.
trust me.
take care! and i hope everything works out! ;)
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