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What the hell do i do?
I have this friend whom i really like. I got rejected by her twice and fucked up our friendship. Throughout the summer, we've been getting really close. We are actually super close w/ each other now. Now i don't know if i should tell her how i feel. Like this time i know for sure i can take what she has to say. I really just want to see her happy! But if im not the guy, thats fine. We also have so much chemistry together. I don't even know how to bring it up to her. I'm just scared of fucking up our friendship again. Like i know she'll probably feel a little different towards me. I just wanna see her happy and not fuck up our friendship. I really need advice because this has been on my chest for the longest time.
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The same thing just happened to me, but the difference is I was the girl.
I told my (used-to-be) good friend that I dont' feel the way he feels about me after he told me he wants me to be his gf. And because we were friends, and I did have time to know him very well, I knew there's no way we are going to work out as a couple. HOwever, we are great as friends. We enjoy each other's company a lot.
Long story to be short. He wants me to choose to be his gf or not friends at all. I told him there's no way we are going to work out as couple, but I love to be his frined!! He didn't take that answer too well, so he broke up our friendship. WE are NOT friend anymore.
I'm very sad that being a honest frined to him(tell him we wounldn't work out as couple)that costs me lost a friend.
So, my advice, and just my advice. if you really like her and just want her to be happy. Be there for her as a friend no matter what, even she still doesn't feel the same way of you as you do. Don't do what my "used-to-be" friend (he said he's not my friend anymore)do, don't break up the friendship. BE THERE FOR HER.
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You seem really upset about this, but just remind yourself that this is how you feel, and there is nothing you can do to deny what's going on inside.
Chances are that you feel you messed up the friendship with her since she didn't feel the same. I know how it feels- it isn't ever easy to like someone who doesn't feel the same way (and she's your friend, so it might feel more awkward). But you know what? It should not matter if you are really friends. Although it's understandable that either she or you (or both) might feel awkward or otherwise uncomfortable about it, if you are truly friends, then your friendship will prevail.
Do not expect her to reciprocate the feelings- she rejected you twice so she probably doesn't feel the same way. But at the same time, you should also watch out for yourself. What I mean to say is this: be true to yourself. You should let her know how you feel because it's upsetting you..it seems you have something to get off your shoulders. Plus, a good friendship rests on solid honesty.
Do what you have to do- be honest with her. But also be yourself. Let the chemistry you have guide your friendship. Being honest with her about how you feel should not ruin the friendship. If you are very good friends, then the initial awkwardness will quickly disappear..and time will tell what else life has in store for the two of you. In the meantime, relax, be yourself, and enjoy the friendship.
Oh yes, and to add, if she's a good friend, she won't react unrationally. If she does (as in, overreacts, treats you mean), then you might have to re-evaluate the friendship, or at least have a good talk with her.
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The Best thing to do is tell her how you feel the other times you told her she was probably was a little confused to why you really like her but maybe she has thought about and if she really likes you too there is a chance between you 2. Hope this helped, best of luck!!
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