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I really need a well thought out opinion...maybe even two sc
My ex boyfriend (I'll call him L)and I went out for a month last year, and broke up becuz we were just acting like friends (it was our first relationship). Anyway, we are a rare case, because we just got ridiculously closer and its exactly a year today that we were together; we talk everyday, and he is almost like my best friend, only more. Anyway, i never completely got over him. I honestly love him. Not in love, but i do love him so much. We connect in a way that I never have with anyone. And i know he loves me too, we make a cute couple and balance each other well, but two months ago, i told him that i still had feelings for him and he told that we should just be friends. Anyway, my guy best friend's good friend J likes me alot, and I am attracted to him,but I cant see myself with him, because I still like the other guy. So, last night, I asked L for advice on what to do: whether I should give J a chance or not (because he is the only one who could give me a true answer). And he gave the sweetest advice, that if I saw myself with him than I should give him a chance, but if I cant than maybe I shouldnt. I told him that he (L) would be fifth wheel if I went with J (becasue my guybest friend, his girlfriend, me and L...and now J hang out alot). And he told me not to worry about him, and be selfish for once. Then he quietly asked if I liked someone else, why i was so unsure about J...and I didnt want to answer(because of course I like him). There is nothing wrong with J,but I love L, and I want us to have another chance. We are perfect for each other. We are always flirting with each other, and i love the way he talks to me. He said I brighten his day. Should I give J a chance, or try to give it one try with L again (mind you, he might not even want to try it again.) I want L to know that I do love him. Sometimes, I think that he may love me enough to try it again, but I am afraid to get rejected like two months ago...but after I told him I liked him we got so much closer (he called me everyday that week, but I didnt pick up the phone [could that mean that he was rethinking rejecting me?[), and in two months we are just so close, like a bestfriend only more. Everyone is always asking about us, why we arent together, because we act like it, and he said it would be weird to see me with another guy. I cant tell whether his advice was saying: move on because our time has come and gone, or if he was just being a great friend. Because when he came to me awhile ago, and asked me if he should settle for some girl because he wanted a girlfriend I gave him similiar advice because I put the friend before my feeling for him. I just dont want to get rejected again. But I dont think I can be with J unless...
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I don't know if you meant for your question to get cut off where it did, but you can always leave another one in my inbox if you want to. It sounds to me like you're crazy about L, and not so much about J. It sounds like you would just settle for J if L didn't work out for you. Why just settle for what's alright? If you think you have a chance with L at all, jump on it, because I can tell just from reading your question that that's what you really want. You're crazy about L, don't hurt J by getting together with him when he's not what you really want, he doesn't deserve that. Let L know how you feel, tell him you're crazy about him and you want to get back together with him. If he doesn't want to, then at least he knows how you really feel, and there's more hope for the future. Find out what his feelings are, about you about a relationship with you. Things will work themselves out, sometimes you just have to be patient. I really hope I helped, good luck and keep me posted hun. ~Love Angel
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