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5 GUYS? seriously whats wrong with me
16/f
ok so. i know i sound really stupid asking this question but i really need to know what i should do. and it's gonna be pretty long so if you take the time to read this question and give me advice that would be AMAZING.
basically, im 16 and i like 5 GUYS. yes 5. haha i know that sounds really funny and stupid but it's kinda a big problem. like i've liked more than one guy at a time now but usually i've kinda made up my mind and like developed a better relationship with like 1 of them. but this time i feel like all the relationships are getting better and closer to like more than friends so im so confused on what to do! my girl friends understand like the situation i'm in and like they are telling me it's fine to like more than one guy but that i should really make up my mind. like i don't really wanna make up my mind. i know this sounds bad but i'm not really interested in a relationship right now. i had a year long relationship all year last year and i'm kinda sick of the boyfriend-girlfriend thing. anyways, advice on if i need to pick one of them/who i should pick?
here's a little more about the guys..
GUY A: ok. he doesn't go to my school so i don't see him very often. i mean i could see him every weekend if i wanted to but i just haven't. he's really cute and like i really like him when i'm hanging out with him and stuff. he likes me too and he asked me out like a week ago but i told him i wasn't really sure about who i liked at the moment. he was fine with that. we text all the time and sometimes talk on the phone. he's so cute and i feel like we have so much in common.
GUY B: ok this guy also goes to a different school.here's the problem. this guy also likes me but he is best friends with GUY A. i like GUY B a lot but the thing is he's not very attractive. i know that sounds bad but when i don't find someone attractive it's harder for me to like them. i really like him when i'm talking to him on the phone and stuff but i just don't like him that much when we're hanging out. he's kinda awkward too. he's also friends with the guy i went out with for a year so it would be kinda mean of me to date him. i really like him though and i can trust him with anything and everything.
GUY C: ok. aslkgjalskjdasg this guy is the most confusing guy i've ever met in my life. but i love it. it's so fun and like he's so mysterious. i like can't figure out what's going on in his head. i've known him for a long time. he goes to a different school than me. i've liked him on and off. but whenever i see him, which isn't very often, but i could see him more often, i always start liking him again. there's just something so cute about him. like i can't explain it. anyways, i like hooked up with him a few months ago and it was totally out of nowhere because i know he's never made out before and so i was his first time? so that must mean something right? he's definetly had other chances. he like flirts with me a lot but he's like confusing because he flirts with EVERY girl. i'm like not sure if he likes me or not. but i was talking to him on aim the other day and he was like 'hows GUY D?' and i was like 'what?' and he was like saying that he saw our convo on facebook or something (we were like flirting or whatever) and i was like 'oh...he's really good :)' just to see if it would piss him off. so then he was like 'do you like him?' and i was like i dont know.. i like a bunch of guys. and then he was just like ok gtg bye. like it seemed like he was mad because he's always like love you bye and stuff like that. i think he got mad either because he thought i liked him or because he thinks i like GUY D. i talk to GUY C a lot on aim but we never text or talk on the phone. he tells me he wants to hang out with me all the time but he never really calls me anymore. idk if thats because he feels like if he calls me to hang out i will think he likes me.. or what? should i like make the first move and text him or something? we used to talk on the phone sometimes and text. ugh. HES CONFUSING. but i like it. its more of a challenge compared to the other guys that i like already know like me.
GUY D: he goes to my school. he's one of my best guy friends. i went out with him 2 summers ago. he like flirts with me all the time and he like makes suggestions that he wants to hook up. we text and talk on aim all the time. he's really cute and i have fun talking to him. i hung out with him yesterday for the first time in awhile and it was really fun :)
GUY E: ok this is getting ridiculous already i know. this is the last one i promise. anyways, he goes to my school too and he's like good friends with GUY D. and he like knows that GUY D wants to like hook up with me and stuff. but he's really cute and he's also one of my good guy friends. i see him at school a lot and we talk a lot. we text sometimes. he's really cute like he holds my hand sometimes and like i dont know. he does that to a lot of girls though. hes the touchy kind of guy. i'm not really positive if i like him or not but i hung out with him yesterday too and we like flirted a lot or whatever but thats just how he usually is.
HELP!?
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lol pick C! haha kidding thats only in my opinion but umm,..it's okie to like more then one guy at a time, but if your dating a guy, you shouldnt eye anothr guy...it's wrong. and well but you seem to have anothr problem , most the guys doesnt go to your school, its not a good relationship from afar. good luck!
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Based on what you've written, I'd conclude that you seem to like Guy C the most. The other guys you briefly discussed as being cute, friendly, people you mildly like (though you seemed a bit turned off by guy B). Guy C you devoted at least 3X the space of each other mention, and seemed genuinely worried about how he feels about you, how to ask him out, whether he likes you or not. And you seemed to actually care about how he feels about this whole confusing 5 guy scenario much more than anyone else.
He's more of a challenge, not because he's any more complex than any other guy on this list, but because you seem to have some actual feelings towards him besides mild attraction.
That said, I'm not so sure you should ask this guy out, or any guy on the list. As you said in the intro paragraph, you aren't interested in a relationship right now. You are confused about you're feelings and you KNOW this.
Take a deep breath. Relax. You don't NEED to be in a relationship right now. It's okay to be single. Having to choose right now will either put lots of guys (and yourself) through a bunch of half-hearted pseudo relationships. If it helps, you could always just tell these boys something like "I was in a year-long relationship last year, and I'm not into having a relationship right now." It's pretty fair to the guys you like, and will let them know what to expect, or not to expect from you.
I guess it all depends what you want. If you are looking for a hookup with no strings attached, you probably wouldn't choose, say, guy C, since there actually seem to be some complicated feelings brewing there. If you're trying to figure out how to ease yourself into some sort-of relationship, take it slower, slowly avoiding contacts with guys you like less (ie guy B).
While those are options you could choose, in my opinion you're not ready for either a relationship or a hook up. A lot of these guys you don't actually like that much anyway, you're just sortof stringing them along for lack of anything better to do. Don't. Honestly, if you're going to make a decision, make it. If you don't want to at this exact moment, stop fooling around. A lot of these guys you could drop pretty easily as they don't go to your school or anything anyway, but you're purposefully keeping them involved with your life. If you want to have some sort of interaction, in your state of indecision, keep it in the bounds of friendship. If they tell you they like you and want you to tell them who they like, you could always just say you aren't ready for a relationship, or something, to get them to back off.
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That was sooo long.
But, i say go with guy D. =D
He sounds best.
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Yes, I took the time to read that WHOLE thing, & frankly, guy D sounds like your best choice. B seems like the type to be your BESTFRIEND, but nothing more. & long distance relationships gets tiring after a while. They don't work. & C, I think you only like flirting with them & nothing more. A is a no because of the distance. & E, NO. Because he's touchy and he just seems like a flirt, BIG TIME. SO.. D is the one I definately would go for. But it wouldn't be fair to him if you like all these guys while you're with him. So you should just hold back from all of them. Hope I was helpful!
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