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ive known this kid for a couple years now and were pretty good friends. we party alot together. for the past two years he was dating a girl. a few weeks ago they both came to a party and me and him started just talking and stuff like we always do. well his gf got jealous and made a big scene saying i liked him. i did like him but i knew not to show it in front of her. he kept tellin her to stop and go to bed and stuff and she was yelling at him for defending me. they broke up that and the next weekend we started talking talking. we've been hooking up ever since and he's perfect. going to school to be something, nice job, cute, sweet, funny and fun to hangout with. the problem is we've just been hooking up and not really anything else. i know he just got out of a relationship and i dont want to date him but i would know if he cared for me cause i dont want to keep hooking up with this guy if he just wants sex. i know him really good and i dont think he would do that at all but idk. when we hangout he acts like he cares but when we dont nothings going on. we dont talk on the phone or anything cause i dont have the cell and we have to wait until the weekend to hang out cause of school and work. what should i do?
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Next time you see this guy ask him what you think. He does sound like he likes you but if all thats been happening is you and him hooking up I suppose its possible he is in it for the sexual attraction - but which guy isn't? All men are going to be like that and as long as he's not needlessly pressuring or anything, everything with him and you should be fine. The fact is, if he didn't like you as a person or even respect you a bit he wouldn't have started hooking up with you anyway, and you say you've known each other for a few years. Have you tried going to meet him and asking if you can do something normal like watch a film. If you are doubting his motives, I would go there and make sure he knows you're reluctant; see how he reacts and if he doesn't notice, well. Pfft. If he does you know its safe to approach the topic with him and you only have to ask :). He sounds like he's intelligent, I'm sure if you've known him for that long and you're not only good friends but hooking up too, he'll be willing to listen and answer truthfully and reasonably! If this guy ever makes you feel bad though, don't do anything too drastic if you like him. I would make myself seem slightly distant - try and be like he is to you, if it does go wrong, and he'll soon get the message. However that's a last resort! I really do hope this was useful, I've questioned my boyfriend's motives alot and I find this works :)
Good luck
Faye
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Give him a little time. Coming out of a break up is hard work, and then all of a sudden, another one comes right out of the blue and he might feel a little bit under pressure.
Give him a week or two and see what happens. Hang out with each other by all means but don't make it seem as if your 'warmin When he begins to act like more of himself, ask him what his feelings are for you and see what he says. Then tell him what you feel because by that time, you will know how you feel because your feelings might grow stronger over those two weeks.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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