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about a guy -- of course
Well, there's this guy.. [lol] as usual. Let's call him Joe. I had a class first semester with Joe in computer, and we sat next to each other [because of our last names]; anyways, it was more mutual than flirty-flirty. However, my best friend's locker is right next to his, so every time I'd go over there, we'd talk as well.
A few days ago, two people asked me if we were going out, and I said 'no'. Now Joe and I talk a lot more often. Instead of me initiating conversation, he almost always does. We talk about everything from class, to what he has on his iPod. I feel so comfortable around him, and I really can see myself with him. We've made eye contact, we talk consistently throughout the day, we're almost always around each other. Today [in cooking], we had to go outside to help the teacher bring in her groceries, and the only person that he really talked to, was me.
Remember, school started in August, so it's taken him quite awhile to 'warm up to me'. I rarely see him talking to other girls, so that's a good thing for me. I'm kinda shy around guys, but I'm more of a 'friends before dating' type of girl. I want to hang out with him, but I don't even know if he likes me for sure! It's so confusing, and guys think that girls are confusing.. I think he knows that I'm interested, but maybe he's too shy to admit that he's interested too.
Please help me, I truly do appreciate it, especially since it's from a guy's perspective.
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Sure, I'll help you out here. But first...why did you say 'and that guys think girls are confusing'. Girls are confusing! Well, for the most part they are. I think sometimes its just that guys are too simple for girls to get sometimes. Anyways...
You're allowed to hang out with him even if you aren't dating. I'm sure you've hung out and done stuff together with plenty of friends you weren't dating at that time. Same with him. Invite him to get some lunch on the weekend, or to go see a movie with another friend or too if you feel more comfortable that way, or even ice skating/bowling (depending on where you live). I'm sure he wouldn't mind. As long as you can hold a steady conversation, which it seems that guys can do, then it should be no problem hanging out or even for you to ask him to do something. Schedules may conflict here and there, but thats about all of the trouble I see.
It may sound scary, but if you like him then you should definitely tell him. Don't be afraid of making things weird between the two of you or that he might not like you back. If he doesn't like you back, then so what? You are still friends with him and that doesn't mean its permanent for him not to like your...it might just take more time. If things get awkward between the two of you after telling him, then maybe its best to just stay friends. Either way, telling him is best. You don't have to do it right away, but think about doing it soon. Guys like that. You also seem to be good enough friends that even if he was taken aback by it, it shouldn't make things so rocky between the two of you anyway.
So please keep it simple. If you want to hang out with him, then just let him know that you wanna hang out with him and ask him if he has any ideas or friends to go with. If you become closer to him and have stronger feelings for him then you should tell him. Don't be shy either, he is just your friend! Imagine if he was thinking the same thing as you and thats why he hasn't said anything... Well then if he finally did I'm sure you would feel so relieved afterwards now wouldn't you? Think positive and don't be afraid. Hope that helped and good luck.
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