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my roomie had sex with a guy i like what to do..
My roomie had sex with this guy that i like even though i told her not to. She didn't know i liked him at the time but still i don't think it should matter. I think that girls should never have sex with guys that their friends have had sex with and she disagrees.. what is your opinion on this? She also says that she would never do this again and i kind of believe her but she already did it once and i feel betrayed, and i have told her this and she says our friendship is way more important than a guy, which is true. She also said that she can't control what she does when she is drunk, but i can and i know what i am doing even if i am drunk. I think this is just an excuse because when we moved in together she was sleeping with a different guy almost every week, anyways i was just wondering if it would be wrong to move out after our lease is up if she did anything with him again since i have talked to her about it and she knows how i feel.
I am sorry this is so long but Thank you in advance!!
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Well, first of all, you have a right to be upset. It's like an unwritten rule that you don't get involved with someone your friend likes. It's good that you confronted her and told ehr how you feel. The best thing to do now is use your judgment and see if she really doesn't do anything like that again. If she doesn't then you know that it was just a one time slip up. But, if she does it again, then that tells you that she doesn't have as much respect for you or your relationship with her as you thought. Using the "I was drunk" excuse is true to an extent. It does impair your judgement, but if you know first hand you are going to do things you are normally never inclined to do--control yourself and don't drink so much. As you have described her habits of sleeping with various guys frequently, it SOUNDS like this could be habitual but only time will tell. In the mean time, you will just have to sit and pan it out. If you feel like this is something you really can't look past and is going to further deteriorate the relationship, then maybe moving out would be the best better. But on the other hand, if you think both you and her are mature enough to work things out and try to get past this TOGETHER, then try that first. I would suggest talking to her a little more and let her know you are considering moving out --see how she feels. Then decide. Either way, you are going to be you and she will be her. Everything will work out. :)
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