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want to stop the pain in my heart.
hello there, i am an 18 year old female. My boyfriend of three years broke up with me a month ago and recently told me that he does not love me anymore. I was really hurt at first because I do love him with all my heart but I realised I would rather be his friend than not in his life at all. He then told me that he did not want to be my friend, did not want to talk to me and wanted to forget about me. I dont understand why he wants all of this. if he does not love me then why does it bother him to talk to me. I dont talk to him about us. I talk to him about the world and things in life. Do you think he might still love me and it is hurting him to talk to me? Maybe if I leave him alone like he wants he will realise that he loves me too? I just want this pain in my heart to stop. I lose my bestfriend and boyfriend all at one time and it hurts so bad.
please help
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Very difficult. I'm sorry to hear all of that. OK well if you were best friends and dated for so long, then he should at least grant you the decency to talk to you about why he does not want to speak with you at all or remain friends.
One possible reason for why he does not want to keep talking to you is because some people feel it better that when a relationship ends, so does communication with the person. Others, usually after lighter termed relationships, maintain contact, but are a bit awkward and not as good of friends as before dating. Still, other couples break up but still act very friendly towards each other and don't have too much of a problem when the other is dating someone else.
Its very tough. You should talk to him and ask him to explain not why he doesn't love you anymore, but even just why he does not want to be friends or speak with you ever again. Does he feel regretful? Perhaps the pain is just too much for him and he doesn't want to be reminded of what he is missing out on. Please, don't give up just yet. You don't seem to be clingy If he doesn't want to explain and after telling him how you feel he still does not want to talk to you or be friends, then maybe it would be best to move on. Does he dislike you now? If its that he just doesn't love you, thats still different from him disliking or even hating you. It might complicate and make things worse if after he asks not to communicate you keep going at it, but you should still give it a try at least for a bit more.
Try to get a feel for things. Sort your feelings out and if he doesn't want to accept you into his life, then do your best to move on and not let it get to you. You should learn from experiences, but don't let them scar you and stop you from moving forward. If you've gotten this far with someone, which is quite an accomplishment, then you are fully capable of achieving something even better. Hope that helped and good luck.
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i think he does still love you
or maybe will start loving you
again if he does talk to you.
i would leave him alone and let
him come back to youuu :D
cause if he feels that
way, he deff willll.!
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