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What is fingering supposed to be like?
I've only had one boyfriend, so he is the only one who has ever touched me down there...and I'm wondering if he's doing it right because sometimes it kinda hurts. He uses one of his fingers and goes in and out and sometimes I guess his nail scratches the inside of me or something. Also he pushes it in really far and hard, which kind of hurts too. So I guess it doesn't feel as good as I think it should.
But yeah, I haven't had much experience, so...what is supposed to happen when that sort of thing goes on?
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He wasnt doing it right, because it is nottt supposed to hurt. some guys think going rough will make it feel good..nail scratches and pain is nott good..be sure to make this clear. figure out what you like by masturbating, and show him. communicate it to him..because he wannnts to make you feel good. so if he doesnt know what he is going, definitely guide him..some guys need some help lol ;)
whats supposed to happen is he is supposed to make you feel really good..if its anything but good, if it hurts, tell him to stop and show him or tell him what to do
-melissa-
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Forget about what is 'supposed to happen'. If someone is hurting you then they are doing it wrong for you. Tell them to stop. If they don't, knee them in the groin.
I'm only somewhat joking.
To answer your question straight up: It is not supposed to hurt and yes, he is doing it poorly.
The key to good sex, of any kind, is communication. You need to tell him gently that he is hurting you, tell him what feels good and make him listen. He might be a bit hurt and bashful but you are doing him a favor and helping him improve. People aren't born knowing how to sexually pleasure others, it's something they must learn. Be sensetive to his feelings, but make sure your point is clear and specific. If you must, take his hand and show him what does, and doesn't, feel good.
It takes many a guys a long time to learn that when it comes to female pleasure, less is often more. If your guy can't learn, and keeps hurting you, don't let him touch you until he listens and respects your imput. Don't just put up and shut up when it comes to pain.
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