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my boyfriends and i just broke up, he seems over me and im u
my boyfriend and i(both 17) had been going out for a year and half and then one day everything just got too much for both of us, and we broke up. Sine i have been in touch with him and he sounds great, his friends even say he is happier then ever. But when we talk on the phone he tells me he still likes me and if i wanted to be with him he would take me back. i dont want to be with him and i cant see him with anyone else. how do i get over him and still just be friends??
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ohhh!! the same is happening to me , i dont want him back but i dont want to see him with someone else haha but still i want to be friends with him
Stop talking to him. As much as you can, stop looking at him, stop talking to him, stop thinking about it.
Lots of people 'feel' that way. They want thier ex to keep wanting them so that they can reject them all over agian and want thier ex to be miserable without them.
It's totally OK to feel that way. althought it doesnt seem like it ...just try to focus more on the things that made you broke up with him.and convince yourself its for the best of both of you, mostly you cause your the one who doenst want him back. keep in mind that theres gonna be someone else whos gonna be better than him. and the eventually he will date other people :S you cant avoid that . but also you will! its kind of hard to accept but its impossibnle to ask him to be there for you and you reject him again.try not to think about him as much as you can and if you do think about him think about how better it is being just friends than something else. start thinking that if you ever be with him again the same oproblems will be there ...also, the girl who dates him proabbly will have the same problems as you did with him. i think that you should take a time off from each other ..try not to talk to him that much and dont think about him unless is about what went wrong and its the reason you broke up, then when you feel ready, then you can be friends it might take some time, but my suggestion is dont talk to him untill your sure this is the best for you and eventually eventhough yoru with someone else, if you see him dating other people it will be weird at the beginng but just focus on the thought that the person whos gonna be with you is gonna be better than him :) hope it works and i know its hard to be this confused you dont want him with you but you dont want him with other people , but if you think about it ,, th ereason you dont want him with other people its cause your affraid somehow hes gonna be happier with that person that with you , but its impossible to avoid this thoughts so just replace those thoughts by the ones that make you feel better like youll meet someone else better than him ,and the relationship couldnt last longer and although i hate this "everything happens for a reason" haha who knows , maybe you guys broke up cause theres soomeone better for you two :) good luck try to distract yourself with other things or activities , try dating others or hang out more with friends :) and you'll see how you start caring less about him finding someone else . hope it works though its something really hard to do :) let your intellect rule over your selfish desires to punish him and your jealously. someone said that to me and it makes perfect sense to know why i didn0t wanted him but still dont want him to date others :P
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