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getting over it
how can i get over and forget about an old crush who i have no feelings for but i think about him and fantacize that we're dating. please help because i really want to know how to get over him, forget about him and move on because i think i stil have feelings for him and i want to get rid of them
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Aw, honey, I'm sorry!
I definitely realize how difficult it is to forget about someone and I still have a hard time once in awhile.
The main thing that helps me getting over a crush is knowing your independence. Some people may say "find a new guy right away" but I found that does more harm than good. It's important to realize that females are more self sufficent and independent in comparison to most guys. If I break up with a boyfriend I usually go through a short phase where I focus mostly on me.
You need to start over completely. Throw every message, gifts, cards, anything that was from him. I know he was only a crush, but still! Secondly, ask yourself what made you change you mind about him. If you point out certain flaws about him that you don't like it helps remind you of how smart you were. For example: If he's not paying attention to you in class then that might mean that when you're in a relationship he would ignore you around his friends. You see? If you like him and he doesn't like you it will never work out. Relationships work with two people, not one. "Things happen for a reason". Maybe you two weren't right for each other.
Use the experience as a way to make you stronger. Consistiently telling yourself that you don't need to waste your time on him will help you out. And if you come across this problem again, you'll know what to do. Just like with any bad experience, the people that get ahead are the ones who remember them to make them a stronger person.
Your friends are always there for you. Go out with them and tell them what's going on. It's always nice to go out to lunch and talk to your friends. They're always there to listen to you and help you out. If you prefer to not talk about him you can just go out and have fun. Keep yourself entertained!
Keep yourself busy by focusing on a hobbie you like or maybe you want accomplish a goal. Nows the time to do it! Not only will you keep yourself occupied you'll also feel great after you achieve what you wanted.
Those are some ways to try and get over a guy. It's tough and it takes a lot of time to get over someone. Eventually you'll learn you're better off with out him!
Good luck!
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The best way to get over a guy, at least in my experience, it to cut off all contact with him. At first it's hard, but as time goes, it gets easier. You think about him less and less and about other guys around you more and more, until eventually, you're over him. It could take awhile, depending how attached you are to him, but give it time, and, especially if you're young, it'll work.
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Well, i think you do still have feelings for him if you still think bout wanting to be with him, and fantazing about him.
But if you truely want to get over him, go out and have some fun, and spend sometime with other guys.that always works for me.
Hope i helped....
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you have to really think out your feelings. you have to ask yourself, "now why would i still fantasize? why do i still like him?" think hard and dont lie to yourself. maybe you still do like him, maybe hes just the only guy who you would consider liking at the moment, maybe you like liking him. you never know. but you won't know until you get to the root of your feelings.
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