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Jealousy
I've been going out with this guy for eight and a half months. i really care about him, and as far as i know it's mutual. Recently i've been having serious issues with jealousy. There's this one girl he's always either talking to, or about. And she's the same way about him. I know he doesn't mean anything by it, but i'm beginning to think that she has a thing for him. i don't know what to do. i'm not the kind of person who can just sit back, watch and trust him to take care of it. i trust him not to cheat on me, but i don't think it would be beyond him to dump me for her. he has so many classes with her, and he seems to get along with her so well. I've told him about it, and all he ever does is assure me he's not attracted to her. That's not enough. Deep down i want him to just have nothing to do with her, but i would never ask him to do that, it would make him unhappy. but i don't know what to do right now, because i'm unhappy.
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You know, its funny.
I see alot of Idealistic "If you cant trust him, then you shouldnt be in a relationship with him" responses. All the innocence of youth.
Truthful answer, part of this is in your head. Possibilities always exist. You cant stop that.
Honestly, without knowing him and the girl in question, I cant give you any true estimates about his interest level or what he thinks.
You do need to talk to him about it. If you're having issues you need to come to him now and explain that you don't want to build up some huge reserve of jealousy that comes out at the wrong moment.
But you also need to realize that part of this jealous issue is inside your head. Unless hes giving you a bunch of danger signs that you havent mentioned it sounds like you need to work on your own jealous issue. You need to ask yourself why you're jealous and fight against it with the fact that you DO trust him not to cheat on you.
Again, without knowing him and her, I cant give you much better than that. I have no way of evaluating things like your "leaving me for her wouldnt be beyond him" comment to see how true it is.
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You're being such a good girlfriend by not telling him to be around her. That would be veryveryveryveryvery mean!:)
Your happiness is important too! If you can't trust him then that's not a relationship.
Without trust you don't have a relationship, you have sex:) (which isn't that bad!). But you if you can't trust him, then the relationship is pointless.
I understand when you really like someone, but you can't do anything! Just remember if you don't trust him, then he's not worth it.
MERRRRRRRRRRRY CHRISTMAS:)
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The foundation of a relationship is trust.
Do you trust your guy?
If not, then don't be in a relationship with him.
Also, you shouldn't be unhappy.
Jealousy eats at us all. Just remember that you're the one with the guy.
Don't keep talking about the girl to him or mentioning it, you'll just be begging for a huge argument, and it will push him farther away from you.
Keep your cool.
You trust him?
Then don't sweat it.
However, if you DO discover he's cheating on you, kick him to the curb.
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