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This is going to be long, I won't lie to you. I would post this question to the whole site, rather than just you, but it's damn hard to find a guy who will give an honest answer. I've been looking for a while, and I think that I've found that guy.
So feel free to ignore this question if you don't have the energy to answer another confused girl looking for advice on men.
Basically, I'm a 17, and a junior in high school. I've like this same guy since 6th grade, back when I didn't even know what liking someone meant. He asked me out once, however I turned him down. Now, I'm pretty sure he's moved on and forgotten about me, however, I definitely haven't forgotten about him. Whenever I think about him or pass him in a hallway or something, I feel awful. This is mostly because I don't know if I'll ever get another chance with him.
I don't want to graduate high school and never see him again, only to wonder about what would have happened if I had the guts to talk to him.
So, basically, my first question is:
what should I do about him? do you think I should talk to him, even though it would be weird because I haven't talked to him for about four years?
or should I try to let go of him?
Okay, moving on.
There's this guy in my math class whom I've befriended. He has a girlfriend, and even though he does, I can't help but imagine myself with him. I don't even know if I like him, but I'm pretty sure I do, because I've told him things that my best friend doesn't even know.
So, my question is, if you like a girl, how do you let her know that you're interested?
What attracts you to someone, and why?
Thanks for your time and I apologize for the length.
And seriously, thank you for being someone who I can go to for an honest answer. A lot of people on this site tell you what you want to hear, and I don't want that.
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Ok. I'll kind of give two separate answers, as they dont seem to be overly linked here.
So the guy you've liked since 6th grade. You should talk to him.
I'll explain something about guys and how we don't work like girls do. Most guys are interested in most people they meet who fit their orientation. And unless he has had reason to dislike you, those feelings are probably still there in latent form.
If hes single, go for it. Show interest. Be very obvious about it. Go so far as to ask him out.
The way I see it, you have less than two years left of high school. You probably arent talking to him right now anyway and things feel really awkward around him.
If you don't take this chance you probably will regret it. If it works out, then you are dating a guy you really like. If it doesnt, then nothing really changes.
Now, the second guy.
How do you let a girl know you're interested? We don't really. Usually its in some bumbling clumsy manner. I used to mention that I liked a girl around but not to her friends, so that word would get back to her and everyone would think I didnt want her to know. I'd walk a girl to class or just talk to her alot more for no reason at all.
As to attraction, that varies widely from guy to guy and to be honest, some people are attracted without ever knowing why.
Example, I dated 5 Choir girls in high school. I didnt even realize it until later that they were all in Choir (they werent all in the same Choir, most went to different schools) but it was something about a girl who would randomly sing a little bit that really attracted to me. Similarly, I have a knack for picking out girls who are sexual people with somewhat to very open minds. Its not neccesarily a concious attraction but every girl Ive dated has been a bit on the kinky side, and there are things that I apparently pick up on unconsciously where I can detect that in a girl.
Most guys are the same. Half the time you cant figure out exactly what it is about a girl that makes those sparks fly, but we definitely know when they do.
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