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to tell or not to tell?
so about a month ago, my dad called the police and had them go to my ex's house and tell him he could not contact me in any way possible or he would be arrested. we're both 16, by the way.
so as my dad was telling me this, he told me i cant contact him either. so i was like okay
so about 2 days later, he IMs me. and for a while he started to talk to me. i talked to him too but that was only me saying that he shouldnt be talking.
so whenever he does talk to me, hes always like leave me alone and blah blah blah. so he has a few things of mine that ive been asking my friend to get back from him (since they're good friends)
so he has a gf now and just yesterday he IMs me and starts like yelling at me saying im bugging his gf when im not doing anything. i ask for my stuff back and he says "my mom will give it to you" i said why not so and so and hes like because. and he wouldnt tell me why.
I feel like i should tell my dad whats been going on but im scared of what the outcome will be. like if i will get in trouble also
wat would you do?
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I'm not sure what I would do. It's very easy to give advice, and more difficult to take it.
Either way, is there a good reason that your dad has asked him to stop contacting you? If this guy has threatened or harassed you - verbally, physically, sexually, emotionally - he's bad news. Replying to his IMs is like saying, 'Yeah, I know I said I wasn't going to talk to you, but I was full of crap.'
What stuff of yours does he have? Is it really that important?
If not, I would say cut your losses. Forget about getting your stuff back and move on. I wonder if you really DO want to stop talking to him, because needing your stuff is a convenient way to keep the communication lines open. Just a thought.
Either way, you need to look at the big picture and decide what is best for you. To talk to this guy or not to talk? To wonder about what happened to his friendship with your mutual friend or not? Is the stuff you want back worth more than not talking to him? These are questions only you can answer.
If you feel uncomfortable enough about it that you are thinking of talking to your dad, I think you SHOULD talk to your dad. Obviously things are making you feel weird, and part of your dad's job is protect you. You may get in a bit of trouble for talking to this guy, but ultimately your dad would probably rather know. Especially now that your ex is contacting you and yelling at you.
You are the only one who can stand up for you, and part of that is getting the support of people who love you. Tell your dad.
I hope it all works out for you.
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