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RELAX..its getting annoying
14/f
this year has been the worst/best year of my life.
its been the worst year of my life because my step dad went to jail got out was getting better from drugs, got his bond revoked.we got evicted.my (brothers dad considered my real dad)dad moved away.moved back.my brothers got something wrong with him (like adhd or something) i lost my job that i absolutely loved where i got to meet some of the best people you could ever meet. and then one of the guys who basicly became family died.:'(
all my mom & (not real dad)dads friends keep dying or getting sick.And my real dad keeps coming in and out of my life,now i havent talked to him in about 5 years. i was about one when he first left and ive only talked to him for about 2 years of my life. when i need him the most he isnt there but when i dont need him he shows up.
the best part of my life is my b/f.he has been amazing and hes the only reason i havent screwed my life up. (cutting,partying,smoking,etc.)
but lately ive been SO stressed thinking about it all,getting in some trouble at home and school,crying for no reason,starting fights and ending them because i dont want to fight anymore.
i want to relax so bad. but i dont know how.i try to stop thinking about it so i can relax but its always on my mind even when im trying to forget it, every little thing helps it come back too.
the only time i find myself not thinking about it is when im in my boyfriends arms and all i can think about is me & him.:'( and i know he is tired of hearing me cry and being upset. and i cant be in his arms and forget about it all, all the time.
What can i do to relax?
something to calm my nerves?
Something to make me not start fights between me and my boyfriend? I dont want to cry anymore. and i dont want him to hear me cry anymore. what should i do?
I dont think i can handle this all.im only fourteen.no one should have to go through this.and i know there are kids out there going through worse. its horrible.i hate it.
What should i do?
sorry this is so long. thanks in advance.
~*~Michelle~*~
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I would try simple meditation if i were you. Go somewhere where you won't be disturbed for around twenty minutes. Sit with your back upright in a chair, with your feet around six inches apart. place your hands on your lap and close your eyes. Clear your mind till it's empty, concerntrate only on the silence around you, let it penertrate your mind and clear it. Take deep breaths and each time you exhale, imgaine all of your fears and worries leaving you.
If you party often, take a break for a while and get into a routine. Your bodies been so excited from the parties that it doesn't know when to relax so it's uptight all the time. Get up early, have three solid meals and go to bed early, this way, your body and mind will relax.
I hope this helps.
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Hi.
Like you said, there are people out there going through a lot worse but that said - it still doesn't make it okay that you are having to go through it.
Life can deal us some funny cards sometimes. I myself have had a very troubling year as well with a lot of tragedy in the family and can't wait to put the year past me.
It seems you have a lot going on in your life and it's starting to take its toll on you stress wise which in itself is never a good thing. I think first and foremost you may want to consider counselling. Your school should have someone available who you can talk to (speak to one of your teachers who you feel you can talk to about it when you have a moment with her alone and ask about wanting to see the school counseller). They will be able to help you put in touch with the counseller (unless they have an in-school office in which case just go see them directly) and they will be able to listen to you and try to help you deal with all these things that are happening.
There are other ways you can also try to get rid of stress but this will depend on what you like doing. I found martial arts to help as well as meditation. You could read or better yet write - it gives you the chance to put your feelings to paper and express them. There's a many number of things that can help but I would strongly advise that you seek help from your school counseller first and foremost as they might be able to help you a lot more than you trying to deal with so much stress on your own.
Good luck and I'm sorry I couldn't give more details but I've to get to my class. :( I hope things will all work out for you sooner rather than later. Feel free to message should you need to talk though.
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