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i get anti social sometimes
for a while now I have been very antisocial when im in groups. Ill have a really good conversation about the same thing with a bunch of people. But i cant carry on a conversation very well. Im silent lately and i dont know why. When i do say things i sound like an idiot or ill say something stupid. I can think something in my head but it'll come out completely wrong and dumb. Why does this happen and how do i stop it and improve my social skills with anyone.Im not comfortable around people anymore I want to be though
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not to alarm you but you may be depressed. why do you think that the things that you say are dumb? is someone telling you that they are? you need to be more selfconfident. maybe find something that you and a good friend enjoy and do that together. then, you can carry on different conversations while you are with that person. you should be focusing on positive things about yourself. if this goes on, you may want to talk to an adult or a docter. i do think that you just need to start talking more and more no matter how silly you feel. you will become comfortable with being more social by practicing. try speaking up in class and participating in group discussions. this is a very good way to start learning new social and conversational skills. i hope this helps.
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1. don't be afraid.
2. don't worry about sounding like an idiot, and dont think too much about it because then it WILL come out wrong.
3. just be yourself, and be as outgoing as possible. meaning, put yourself out there. talk to people, and start a good conversation like "so what did you think of that science test?" or something that they can't resist answering.
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I sometimes get this myself you know. When you think of something to say, you usually think of the outcome of what you say and it's a positive response. But sometimes the outcome of what we say can go quite in a different direction and people could say "What do you mean?" or "That's stupid". Just take your time as to what you want to say and say it in a way which will be understanding to the people your talking to and in a way which makes you confident to continue on.
This really isn't anit - social, it's just that you're nervous as to what you're going to say next and hoping that is dosen't sound stupid.
There is a book called 'The Art of Small Talk' by Debra Fine and it gives lots of hints about what you can say which makes you feel comfortable in people's presense
I hope this helps.
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