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My ex still likes me but?
I am bisexual, and I have feelings for my best friend Lara I liked for 8 years before I went out with Tony. I broke up with him because I was in love with her and I was using him to get over her. Lara is my first girl crush. 5 moths ago I told her how I felt but she doesn’t feel the same way because she is unsure about her sexuality. Tony is still friends with me after the break up and he is friends with Lara too. Tony lives in Hawaii and he call me 3 years later, he told me that he still likes me, but I told him that I don’t feel the same way. 10 months or less he call me and told me he has a girlfriend and ask her to marry her. I was very happy for him. But then 4 days later he told me they broke up because of family issues. And next year I might move to hawaii with my parents and I told him. He said I will pray for you to come here to Maui”.I can’t decide because I don’t want to leave my friends behind and the only way to stay at CA I need a good job to have a place for my own.
I want to tell him that I like Lara and that I am bi. But I am not that much of a close friend to him so I am afraid of what he might think of me. Should I tell him?
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your a girl so just go with tony becuase u might not really like lara and you think you do.
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So Tony was engaged to another girl, broke up with her and may or may not still care for you? Watch out for the man on the rebound. If you are making it clear to him that you are not interested in him romantically there isn't a need to tell him you are bisexual or that you have an interest in someone else, whether that someone is male or female is irrelevant. If you want to share that part of yourself with Tony then by all means do so, but you certainly are not obligated to.
As for whether you should stay in CA or move to Hawaii, that is a decision only you can make. Do not base your decision on someone else, really think about what you want and will make you happy.
Now Lara may or may not be bisexual. Continue to be her friend and give her the space she needs to decide who she is and what she wants for herself. Accept the fact that it is possible she will decide she is straight or that she is bisexual and may not be interested in you romantically.
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