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homecoming.
so im going to homecoming with one of my friends, as friends. only he's not one of my really good friends but hes a friend. the only problem is he likes me and i dont like him. im afraid of the awkwardness. I wanna have the time of my life at homecoming but idk i think it'll be weird, especially if he follows me around. I do understand that since were going together i have to slow dance with him. but i dont really want to slow dance every dance with him. so im thinking maybe once or twice? but what do i say if he asks me again after that? Or what if he expects were together if i keep slow dancing with him? I also feel that it will be an awkward drive on the way to the dance. we havent really coordinated that stuff yet but we are going to a party and then after the party everybodys hitching their own rides. so im not sure how thats gunna go.
so im basically just looking for advice on what to do or except that night.
thanks and im a freshman girl.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
It is important to make the line clear, that you are only friends. You can do that by making an off handed comment like, "I'm glad I am going to this dance with a friend. It takes the pressure off knowing this isn't a date, just two friends have a good time at Homecoming."(Or what ever you might feel comfortable saying).
Something you need to realize though is that you ARE going together. That means that realistically, you should spend most of your time together. If you two were adults and going to a social event together, even just as friends, it would be socially expected that you two are there together, even if there is nothing romantic going on. It is... well... I guess a social rule of ettiquette. That is not to say you can't dance with anyone else at all! There are two types of social gatherings; one where it is a social group doing sociable things (you don't go with a specific person, maybe a group of people and you dance with whomever, whether fast or slow songs, etc.) and the second is a couples type of gathering. Homecoming CAN be a sociable dance but is typically a dance you go to with a date. When you go with a specific date... it is most appropriate to be with that person most of the time.
The one thing that can help here is if you are open and clear BEFORE the evening takes place. A few days before make it clear that you would like to dance with him, a few dances, but you want each of you to be able to dance and socialize with other people as well. This clears the air and makes it more appropriate.
Most importantly, before anyone's evening gets ruined (yours OR his) and before he gets his emotions crushed (especially pubically) be sure you open your line of communication BEFORE you go to the dance so he knows exactly what to expect. Then you can both maximise your enjoyment.
Hope you have a great time!
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