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this boy
Ok so I have a "friend" who lives like 8 hours away. We've been friends but i just recently moved and now we've been talking. We are like bf/gf but not actually. He and his chick friend[she has a bf] came to my place to visit so we could go to a theme park a few weeks ago and he slept with me and she slept on the couch. And we had sex[i'm 19and he's the second person i've ever had sex with..and i'm his 3rd]. They only stayed a day and then they had to go back home. I expected that we would finally be official but he told me that he was confused and he didn't know if it would work..he's also going into the army in like a month.And then the other day we talked and he still said that he really really likes me alot but he doesn't know how it will work. And so, but he still calls me baby and still acts like we are b/f and g/f but theoretically we are nothing so i'm soooo confused. SOMEONE TELL ME WHATS GOIN ON!!
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He doesn't want to commit to you.
He is going to keep 'not knowing' until he joins the army.
Asking someone to commit, when they know they are leaving, might be expecting too much.
Why don't you think of it this way insteed: How do you best enjoy the time you have with him? What are you willing to do and not willing to do with someone who hasn't commited?
Look, he probably isn't going to commit to you right now. He doesn't feel free too. Accept it, and make it about enjoying your time togeather, rather then obsessing about labels. Respecting his descion, deciding on your bounderies and remaining his close friend is probably the best road you can take to maybe being something more someday.
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..there's a possibility he's using you for sex... He might like you.. and want to start something after he is back from the army... but it might just be the right thing at the wrong time.. or a fun night before army...
hope i was helpful...
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