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I've had a thing with some guy for about 6 months. Like we've both liked each other and constantly hooked up (as in kisssssing) every weekend bsaically.
He wants me to give him a handjob, which I have no problem doing, because I really like him.
But is it bad to give him a hand job if I'm not dating hiM? Like, slutty?
I really need help on this :/
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I can't tell you what is slutty and what isn't. In many ways, that is for you to figure out, and what you probably should try to figure out. Think now about the kinds of things you are willing to give without commitment. Essentially, the more you wait until you are in some kind of committed relationship, the more you will have some sort of security about what you are doing. Basically, whether you are more interested in relationships or hookups comes down to the question of whether you want love or lust more. It's all part of your own unique identity, so I'm not going to tell you that what you are doing is wrong.
However, if you are already kissing and already like each other, what's the harm in straightening the situation out, and figuring out what you both want? A lot of what a relationship is is basically liking someone and kissing them, anyway. What is holding the two of you back and what do you have to lose?
But to answer your question (yes I know I got a slight bit off topic): it is slutty if it's making you uncomfortable or causing you to lose your dignity in some way. In general, someone who isn't dating you but asks for a hand job doesn't entirely care about you and is being immature. It may be slutty, it may not be slutty, so just focus on looking out for yourself. Basically, if you don't feel ready to give this guy a handjob, don't look for an excuse, just don't do it!
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Well, think about what youve been doing with him.
Its slutty that youve been hooking up with him every weekend.
You can tell him that you wouldnt go that far with anyone who isnt your boyfriend, and you wont go out with him if he only wants the benefits (hj/bj, oral, sex, WHATEVER they may be)
xxtiffany
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haha no i dont think kissing is slutty. i do think making out with a guy you dont have a commitment to is close to the slutty side.
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