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I have a friend, she's more like a little sister, and she often comes to me for advice. Usually they are matters that I can help her with or at least make her feel better when she needs to. She's been through a lot, growing up all she basically had was her mother and a tough mother to deal with at that. At times her mother wasn't the greatest and could be a real jerk, but there were some times she seemed to really care and take pride in her daughter. It's hard enough to tell my friend everything is going to be okay because her mom has a brain tumor, but now things have gotten worse. Her mother came here from Germany and was married then divorced and some how or another has been here illegally. Now she is probably being deported. Her lawyer says things aren't looking very good for her and that more than likely she will be deported. My friend is taking this really hard, though her mother hasn't always been the best she is all she has. I tell her I am here for her, which is all I know to do, but she's so worried. Her mom is putting everything she has in my friends name which is also making it so that my friend can't go to college like she was planning. How can I help her get through this? I know I can be there for her, but that just doesn't seem to be enough right now.
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Even if you did have the money to get the lawyer that got O.J. Simpson off the hook, you better find a shovel to dig him up, too... he's dead.
But I agree that at this point, there's nothing that you CAN do. Just before there for her like you've always been. She'll appreciate it. Listen when she needs you, be her shoulder to cry on, and try to get her mind off of things when you can. Other than that, I hope everything looks up for her and her mother.
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Sorry this surely won't be any help to you, but there's really nothing you can do. It happens, though; sometimes something happens and you so desperately wanna help a friend, but everything is totally out of your hands. It may seem like you're not doing enough, but trust me, in a situation like this, just knowing that you'd do ANYTHING to make your friend feel better is already more than enough, because i'm sure your friend already knows that's the most you can do. Distract her when you can, but if she HAS to talk about it, listen. Again, sorry, but unless you've got millions of dollars to pay for the lawyer that got O.J. Simpson off the hook, it really does sound like you're doing the best you can=/
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